How would you respond?

[Ugly Bear]

Let's take 'em one at a time:

( Yeah,but its still a skirt)

(Pause.) "And ... ?"

If the conversant tries to make the point that skirts are women's clothes, you can counter by 1) pointing out that women are more likely to wear pants than skirts these days, and that no one says that pants are women's clothes, and 2) when was the last time you saw a woman wearing a kilt? (If he brings up Catholic schoolgirl uniforms, smack 'im.)

( Is that a Kilt?)

"Yeah."

That one's pretty straightforward. It may well be that this is the first kilt this person has ever seen in action.

( Hey dude,Love your costume)

Rather than respond, just give 'em a "***?" look and shake your head sadly.

( Hey Bud,would you not mind wearing your kilt? I have some buddys coming and two are very homophobic )

"That's their problem, not mine. Sounds like you've all got some growing up to do."

[Amoskeag]

Maybe I live in La-La Land or maybe I don't get out much, but I have never associated kilts with any kind of sexual pretense. A kilt has always been a man's Scottish garment and I just assumed that the whole world realized this. I guess it's just me! I don't have the time this morning to go on at length about how attitudes like this bother me (and that's a good thing!). I'm going to stop before my wife throws a bucket of water on me! Wow! There are some real jerks in the world. NOW HEAR THIS, NOW HEAR THIS: The Rant Is Over - That Is All!

I agree with your assessment of "former friend"
Bob

[Tommie]

Thanks to all of you guys.Your the greatest and im proud to be among such intelligent friends.
I will have to remember all of these responses the next time someone insults not only me but the kilt and the history of it.

The sad thing is-one stupid remark said without thinking-broke up a twenty year friendship.
I questioned his remark many times after,and wondered did he himself somehow connect my wearing a kilt to being homosexual,and was using his buddys as an excuse to say something he was afraid to say directly to me.
He knows that I have a very close friend that lives up in Canada that is Transsexual,and did at one time make a remark to him being gay.
I said nothing at the time an thought,if hes not intelligent enough to know the difference in being Transsexual and Homosexual,than why bother in trying to correct him.

Again thanks so much for some of your ways to handle or to respond to insulting remarks.
What are some of the things that you guys have run into and what else can we expect to hear from people speaking without thinking?

[Tommie]

Oh,and one more thing I ment to mention.

I am the type of person when told I should not do something !!!
Well,you can place bets that I will than do it for sure and you'd win.