How would you respond?

**SteveB** · 22nd January 08, 08:19 PM

Tommie,
I am gay, and the kilt is a man's garment all the way. I would not consider wearing a skirt in public. I have been kilted since 13 and am approaching 57. My Spouse is a descendant of the Lamonts, and is not interested in being kilted. We live in Massachusetts, which is the only state to recognize same sex marriage as of three years ago. We married as soon as it became legal, with our children and grandchildren at the wedding. My side of the family, and our sons came kilted. His side came in Tuxes. Both sides best men came kilted. I receive some comments on occasion as I ride the subway or on the bus while going about my errands. Those that ask is that a kilt? are usually surprised to see one in the flesh, and want to know more about it. I now have some business cards printed up with the X-Marks website on one side that I hand out. To those that say nice costume, I tailor my response to them, as others have already posted. For the skirt comment, I believe ignorance is bliss. I am so comfortable in the kilt, that I appear to most to be a part of it. I have never been uncomfortable with being me. I was an athlete (runner) in high school and college, and would get an occasional locker room comment. I am very pleased that the comments of everyone on this thread have been respectful of others feelings while still being factual. A very nice balance.

----SteveB, Boston, Massachusetts

**Tartan Hiker** · 22nd January 08, 08:55 PM

Originally Posted by SteveB

Those that ask is that a kilt? are usually surprised to see one in the flesh, and want to know more about it.

That happened to me the other day at Target. The lady at the cash register, (who was certainly well beyond "middle age") said "Is that a kilt???? I've never seen one except in movies or on TV." This took me a bit by surprise, and, at a loss for something more clever to say, I came out with "How sad for you."
We had a good chuckle over that.

**Nighthawk** · 22nd January 08, 10:06 PM

Originally Posted by Tartan Hiker

That happened to me the other day at Target. The lady at the cash register, (who was certainly well beyond "middle age") said "Is that a kilt???? I've never seen one except in movies or on TV." This took me a bit by surprise, and, at a loss for something more clever to say, I came out with "How sad for you."
We had a good chuckle over that.

I had a lady in Wal Mart say the same to me! I was wearing my Black Stewart, so I said to her "Well, this is a good one for your first." We had a short chat afterwards.