Wrestling with my conscience...

**Arlen** · 18th March 08, 10:29 AM

Originally Posted by pdcorlis

Arlen

My dead grandmother visited me from beyond the grave last night. After speaking with her Welsh ancestors - she told me you should buy the kilt.

Well, in that case I HAVE to get the kilt or I'll upset your poor, dead Grandmother and she'll never let me land in Idaho.

**Arlen** · 18th March 08, 10:31 AM

Originally Posted by Oldhiker

Arlen
I can't give you advise on which kilts, you are far more knowledgeable than I. But being married for almost forever, 1 bit of advise.... when one comes into a small windfall of cash...mums the word. Your new found funds might become kitchen curtains which are far more needed than another kilt.

I am not encouraging deciet to a newly married young man but you will find out a married couple has two piles of money...hers & ours.

Oh, I already shared the knowledge about the award.
I'm going to be using most of it to pay the rent for the time I am over there but before my work permit arrives.
That and to help get a new car since the old one is dead.

Maybe if I could go out and get beat up again...

**Arlen** · 19th March 08, 04:14 PM

WooHoo!
I went ahead and got it. Now I just have to wait for it to arrive and then have my Mum take it up for me.

Oh, the Jones!

**Ancienne Alliance** · 19th March 08, 04:29 PM

Originally Posted by Arlen

WooHoo!
I went ahead and got it. Now I just have to wait for it to arrive and then have my Mum take it up for me.

Oh, the Jones!

Congratulations !

Don't forget to post a few photos !

**Arlen** · 19th March 08, 04:44 PM

Originally Posted by Ancienne Alliance

Congratulations !

Don't forget to post a few photos !

I most definitely will.

I might wear it to my wee farewell to Scotland trip down to Dumfries.

**Ancienne Alliance** · 20th March 08, 01:11 AM

Originally Posted by Arlen

I most definitely will.

I might wear it to my wee farewell to Scotland trip down to Dumfries.

That sounds like an excellent idea !

**Ian.MacAllan** · 21st March 08, 11:06 AM

Originally Posted by Oldhiker

. . . a married couple has two piles of money...hers & ours.

This may well be true of many marriages but it is hardly an inescapable invariant. You may never have a better chance than right now to determine which way your marriage will go. Lie to her now, or even just withhold important information such as this windfall, and you will push your marriage toward deceit; tell her about it and you will push it toward trust. Your choice.

"It's not our talents that define us, Harry, it's our choices." Albus Dumbledore, Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets; the movie, not the novel. The screenwriter expressed this idea much more forcefully than Mrs. Rawlings did.

Best wishes to you for a long and happy married life.

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**Ian.MacAllan** · 21st March 08, 11:08 AM

Originally Posted by Oldhiker

. . . a married couple has two piles of money...hers & ours.

This may well be true of many marriages but it is hardly an inescapable invariant. You may never have a better chance than right now to determine which way your marriage will go. Lie to her now, or even just withhold important information such as this windfall, and you will push your marriage toward deceit; tell her about it and you will push it toward trust. Your choice.

"It's not our talents that define us, Harry, it's our choices." Albus Dumbledore, Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets; the movie, not the novel. The screenwriter expressed this idea much more forcefully than Mrs. Rawlings did.

Best wishes to you for a long and happy married life.

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