What am I doing wrong?

[ardchoille]

On Sunday I went to visit my in-laws kilted (First time in months.) As a result today my Mother-in-law informed my wife that I am no longer welcome kilted. It all stems from how I sit. Apparently 2 members of my wife's family informed the mother that they could see up my kilt some indefinite amount.

When I sit down, I do two things:

1) sweep the pleats.
2) make sure the front is covered, by pulling it down in front.

I want to get this right, because it is causing me problems. I am not trying to flash anyone. Every time I sit I check to make sure that is not the case. I am also not picking up the material in front, and flashing as I pull it down. I am pulling down what is already in front.

Thanks for your help.

It sounds to me as if you're doing everything right. If it were me, I'd politely inform the mother-in-law that I am free to wear that which pleases me and if she wants my company, then she will need to accept me as I am.. otherwise she may never see me. And that any male child I produce (her grandchild) will also be encouraged to wear the kilt.

You could also politely ask if she would be open to you making "rules" about how she dresses when she is in your company.