My wife is not on board with the whole kilt thing.

**Bugbear** · 2nd September 08, 05:22 PM

Originally Posted by Master K9

... she has put he foot down every time...

The foot has spoken. He can't do anything about it on his own. That's all I ment.

* No offence intended.

**Sionnach** · 2nd September 08, 05:23 PM

I commiserate. My own wife has had a hard time adjusting to me wearing a kilt, even though she has known is has been my wish for a long time. And one my oldest and youngest sons share also. But she also gets upset if I shave my moustache, or grow a beard, or get a tattoo. She just has a harder time adjusting to change- so I figure I am helping her work on it. Maybe with gentle persistance and patience she may come around. All the best to you both.

**robthehiker** · 2nd September 08, 05:23 PM

Originally Posted by Ted Crocker

The foot has spoken. He can't do anything about it on his own. That's all I ment.

Ah, "have their feet speak to her foot". I get it.

**Alan H** · 2nd September 08, 05:29 PM

Do all of the above...take her to a Highland Games, show her XMarkstheScot, maybe show her the Utilikilt website, or some websites with Highland Athletes. Break it in slowly by wearing it around the house and so on. She IS your spouse, and you love her and there's no reason to start out combative about it. However, there comes a point where you have to sit down with her and say..

"I am an adult. I don't ram my thoughts about what you should wear down your throat, and you won't ram your choices about what I will wear down mine. I cede you the respect due an adult entirely capable of making her own choices about things like what to wear. I'd appreciate it if you'd return the favor."

And then, if she can't bring herself to be seen with you in public with a kilt on, just go without her. Try hard to find a common ground. You don't have to be in a kilt on her birthday, you know? If there are times that are special to her, then leave the kilt in the closet on those times. But she has no right to tell you what to wear, just like you have no right to tell her what to wear.

**Rigged** · 2nd September 08, 05:39 PM

Sounds like she needs a congnitive adjustment. I recommend a romantic evening at home -- dinner and a movie -- Braveheart. Wear your kilt. Afterwards, romance her while wearing the kilt, thus demonstrating one of its main advantages. You might have to repeat this on a regular basis, with a different kilt-themed (or MUG-themed) movie each time to reinforce in her mind that kilt-wearing men are masculine, that you're masculine for wearing it, and that there's a payoff for her.

Pretty soon, she'll be picking out kilts for you to wear and dragging you out to show off her manly, romantic, kilt-man to her friends.

Well, who knows if it would really work out like that, but it sure couldn't hurt to try.

**gilmore** · 2nd September 08, 05:46 PM

I would go out in the kilt and leave her at home. A person that controlling can't be much fun in a night on the town.

**Frank McGrath** · 2nd September 08, 06:23 PM

Dump'er and get another.

**Bugbear** · 2nd September 08, 06:25 PM

I hereby take back all of my advice in this thread, and run for my life.

* Clarification: I will try to avoid posting in this thread. No offence intended.

**mbhandy** · 2nd September 08, 06:32 PM

Originally Posted by Ted Crocker

I hereby take back all of my advice in this thread, and run for my life.

I'm with Ted on this one.

MrBill

**bigdad1** · 2nd September 08, 06:42 PM

If your daughter bought you the kilt she must think they are okay. Perhaps she can talk to your wife. I hate to sound cranky but if you have the kilt and you want to wear it and your wife won't go out with you when you have it on try leaving her at home alone a few times and see if that doesn't change her narrow mind. She may be a wonderful woman but she is exerting a lot of influence over your wardrobe when it should be your choice. suggested earlier you might ask her if you can pick out her clothes.
Good luck and good kilting.