That actually brought tears to my eyes, for a mother to ruin her daughter's wedding plans like that seems unforgivable - but that is what forgiveness has to have - otherwise it would not require any effort to attain it.

I'd say attend the ceremony in garments your mother would find acceptable - it is after all a solemn occasion with vows made, when the wishes of the bride and groom ought to be held sacrosanct.




However - there is always the reception - maybe a distinctly tartan theme on the tables, with a scottish band, display of Highland dancing outside as the guests arrive, after a well organised diversion to quick change rooms for as many of the guests as can be got in on it.

You get my drift?

Anne the Pleater