Pay back time?

[Nighthawk]

I hear you. In my family it was the son of an all Irish-American (Lace-Curtain Irish they said) Roman Catholic family who married the daughter of a German born and Lutheran father and Irish-American mother (Shanty Irish they said). The principals took the feud with them to the grave.

Sounds like my family. On my mom's side- Grandpa was an Irishman (Leddy), Grandma was German (Mertz). On my dad's side, Grandpa was English (Butterworth), and Grandma was Scottish (MacLeod of Harris, which I just in the last week realized made her from the Isle of Skye- now I need IoS tartan kilt!). So as I'm sure you can all imagine, holiday were a blast.

[Zardoz]

Weddings are fun........to watch!

I've been to a lot of weddings over the years, as a guest, or part of the show. I like to go, I've only ever turned down one invite. Most of them, like Mrs.Z's and mine, seemed to go off with little drama. But it seems like 10 or 15 percent of them are just nuts, (but still fun to watch!) mostly because of someone in one of the families, generally the mother, trying to make it the wedding she never had.

My suggestion would be to take the groom's tux back and get him a kilt

[derosa]

My suggestion would be to take the groom's tux back and get him a kilt

Just remember to do it last second the night before so there is no switch back. Though I would be more inclined to point out that after the way she handled herself through your wedding you won't attend hers.

[socalferg]

Wow, unbelievable. I can’t believe your Mom took that on herself to do. Anyway…
I say wear the Kilt. But, both of you need to decide how that will affect your Mom. It is ‘her day’. And, it’s really not worth creating turmoil in everyone’s life. Of course ‘Mom’ might have considered that in the first place.

[Galb]

I read the opening post to my wife. Her jaw hit the floor. She said she couldn't believe someone would do such a thing. She then said "Hell yes he should wear the kilt to her wedding!" Want to make it even more special? Hire a surprise bagpiper for the reception.

[Big Paul]

By all means, wear the kilt with pride!!!

[george7]

I would suggest honoring your mother's wedding and the other wedding guests. Although I really do like the idea of hiring a piper, don't put it on the piper to find out he's not welcome.

[Downix]

I would suggest honoring your mother's wedding and the other wedding guests. Although I really do like the idea of hiring a piper, don't put it on the piper to find out he's not welcome.

Indeed, so she should get one of us that is in on the payback to be the piper...

If I was closer I'd be game. Any of you nearby play?

[Livingston]

Wow. Unreal.

I agree AND disagree with everyone. I think that you should sit her down and talk about it. First, let her know how upset you were with her actions at your wedding and they way she ruined it for you. Then let her know that you are extreamly tempted to do the same to her's (take back his tux and replace it with a kilt, were FULL highland attire to the wedding, change the music at the reception to pipes and drums, not even come to the wedding, etc). Once she understands, let her know that, while you have thought hard and long about it, you will not do those things since it would ruin her day and drive a permanent wedge between you. Oh, and I'd do this before letting her know you are moving to NZ.

Just my two cents.

[Cassidy]

I say have him wear it, without a doubt.

She clearly didn't give a flying anything about your feelings on the one day where that's supposed to be the only thing that matters, why shouldn't you return the favor?