Pay back time?

[Nighthawk]

I say have him wear it, without a doubt.

She clearly didn't give a flying anything about your feelings on the one day where that's supposed to be the only thing that matters, why shouldn't you return the favor?

Not even so much that-what goes for her should go for the rest of the family. If she can make those decisions for others, why should others not make those same decisions for her? Same standards all the way around.

[Aggie]

This is a extremely controlling woman who deserves no consideration. I say wear a kilt if you feel like it and pray, pray, pray that she doesn't decide to move to New Zealand.

[The Vicar]

Well, I would not wear the kilt but instead a suit with a tie in an elegant plaid.

I am not sure that upsetting someone on their wedding day is helpful?

You know how that feels yourself as it was done to you and your beloved and do you really want to do that to someone?

What I would do is get a family portrait done of you and the Mrs. in your kilt and the Mrs. in a beautiful plaid dress. Elegant and tasteful so that she could see for herself how great you both would have looked on your wedding day.

I would give that to her and her new hubby as a wedding gift. It's a "win win" because if she doesn't like it, and doesn't get the point; you can get it back and there you have the family in the tatan and you in the kilt you love.

The Vicar : )

[Squeaky McMurdo]

I say wear a kilt if you feel like it and pray, pray, pray that she doesn't decide to move to New Zealand.

Don't even joke about that

[Ian.MacAllan]

I would personally take the high road. . . . it seems to me like the woman didn't realize she did anything wrong. . . .

That's not just the high road, Dave, that's extraterrestrial. Her timing---too late for anyone to undo her meddling---denies her innocence. Let us keep Squeaky and her husband (and her sister and her betrothed) in our prayers.

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[English Bloke]

I don't advocate you follow my advice but were I in your shoes Squeaky, I would not attend the wedding. In fact, there is not a hammer big enough to drive the wedge that I would have already put in place.

I would also treat your move to New Zealand as an opportunity to permanently close the door. I wouldn't even give the woman my new address. No letters, no phonecalls, no emails, no christamas cards, nothing.

As you may notice I am not a very forgiving person so please don't do what I would do.

[davedove]

That's not just the high road, Dave, that's extraterrestrial. Her timing---too late for anyone to undo her meddling---denies her innocence. Let us keep Squeaky and her husband (and her sister and her betrothed) in our prayers.

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Possibly, and only Squeaky is close enough to really know, but I have known people like that in my life who have absolutely NO clue that what they're doing is wrong. And the difficult part is that they mean well and think they are helping.