Pay back time?

[CDNSushi]

For me personally, the whole revenge thing is kinda icky... As a Christian I've heard enough sermons about that I suppose, to know that we're supposed to leave that to God and just worry about forgiving others their faults...

HOWEVER, having said that -- the little devil on my other shoulder is telling me a great alternative solution... Rather than risk making a big scene or anything, upsetting people overtly and blatantly, especially "mom," I would just bail at the last minute. "OFF" goes the cellphone, and on the way to the wedding, I'd "stop for a quick pint" and somehow manage to lose track of time till... ohhh.. I dunno... the next day.

Oooops! Sorry we couldn't make it to the wedding -- something important came up.

[Carolina Kiltman]

I would personally take the high road.

Now, about the original situation, it seems to me like the woman didn't realize she did anything wrong. Perhaps she thought she was helping out by "correcting" your mistake, something mom's do the world over, even when the kids are adults. Sometimes mothers don't know when to quit "helping" the kids around them. You obviously know her and I don't, so you have to make your own judgement on that.

Amen! to the above. My favourite Mother-in-Law was that type. It made visits really trying! I remember on one trip home after a particular trying time, my wife remarked, "You know? I like my Mother-in-Law much better than I like yours!" By this time we had been married about 35 years, and all the kids had already left home.

Sadly, we can choose our friends, but we are handed our relatives and are stuck with them.

[staticsan]

I have a few people near to me that have expressed their displeasure with my wearing the kilt...I don't wear it around them any more and when they've asked, I tell them that it's because I feel that my kilts are very special and I don't want to sully the whole thing by wearing them around people who don't like them. End of discussion.

This is good advice. Although I want to wear my kilts much more often, my immediate family are not that happy with it. So I don't.

Wade.

[Abax]

I'm hearing a lot of people telling you to give in to a woman who has proven that she deserves no such consideration. Wear the kilt to the wedding and the reception.

People will walk all over you if you let them. Give Mom a loud and clear declaration that enough is enough.

Or just step aside as they come crashing through, figure out what direction they're headed in, and go the other way. That's not cowardice, it's just a lot less aggravation.

Abax

[Joe Gondek]

I say he shouldn't wear it if he's only doing it to get the woman's goat. If he would have worn it normally, then go ahead! I would have ceased caring about her opinions (regarding dress) the day she stopped caring about mine.

well said

[thescot]

Oh, my Lord, is it ever payback time. If you are the woman you seem to be, I would think that this is a no brainer. Like it says above, "Hell yeah!" We wouldn't want to make problems in the family, but since it's your mother and you seem OK with, it, well . . . .

Dang skippy! Wear the kilt to her wedding. Tell her you wanted her to remember the occasion.

[SteveB]

I generally wear a kilt every day. Trousers are generally not in my wardrobe. That being said, if you are invited to be in the wedding party and accept, then honour the dress of those being married at the wedding, do the rehearsal kilted. If you are invited to the wedding and accept, it would be wise to honour the dress of the couple being wed, including at the reception.
At the reception, present the groom with a special gift properly wrapped of a USAK casual in LOUD McLeod, with sporran, belt, kilt pin, sgian dubh, hose, and a proper shirt.
Assist the best man in sponsoring a kilted bachelor party at the Tilted Kilt. (Lots of photos to share at the reception)
For after the honeymoon, a family get together with all the men in kilts, and women in tartan skirts/dresses to warmly great the new hubby into the ranks.
After the party gets properly lubricated, (and the DJ is one you hired that only brought Celtic music to the party) one of the guests will dedicate a song to her of track 11 of the Meanest of Times by the Dropkick Murphys.
If you decide not to attend the wedding, or are not invited start sending via anonymous means to her hubby many Celtic themed items. A CD by Prydein Loud Pipes Save Lives with some Albannach, The Great Highland Bagpipe Competition, Dropkick Murphys.
Put her on the mailing list for the Scottish Lion, and other Celtic themed mail order houses.
Sit in N Z enjoying the whole thing with her phone number on call blocking.
But do send her Christmas cards of the family together in tartan.
Send her husband a copy of Braveheart on DVD.
If this sounds like a war, it is. My cousin would at family gatherings spend his whole time trying to deride me in front of the family for being kilted, got a like deliverance from me. His three sons all wear the kilt with some anonymous help from you know who. He has finally relented after five years, and now wears the clan tartan kilt to most of the family events.
Winning takes patience and a little planning.
Slainte.

[thescot]

For me personally, the whole revenge thing is kinda icky... As a Christian I've heard enough sermons about that I suppose, to know that we're supposed to leave that to God and just worry about forgiving others their faults...

HOWEVER, having said that -- the little devil on my other shoulder is telling me a great alternative solution... Rather than risk making a big scene or anything, upsetting people overtly and blatantly, especially "mom," I would just bail at the last minute. "OFF" goes the cellphone, and on the way to the wedding, I'd "stop for a quick pint" and somehow manage to lose track of time till... ohhh.. I dunno... the next day.

Oooops! Sorry we couldn't make it to the wedding -- something important came up.

Having said what I said above . . . this is an evil woman whom I really like! I love the way she thinks, and i agree with everything she said.

If I were 30 years younger and we were both single, I'd fall in love. This gal has a great way of thinking.

[Hugh]

Do it, abso-bloody-lutely. She needs a little lesson in humility, and as previous poster advised, if you are in the wedding party and everyone is the same, one thing, but if the choice of dress is yours, by all means your hubby needs to wear his tank.

[Tommy Hunt]

Well, unbeknownst to us, my mother had RETURNED hubby's kilt the day before and EXCHANGED it for a tuxedo and pants.

And your husband is still speaking to her?