Pay back time?

[Wompet]

The family peace-keeper in me goes with Glen, Jamie, Barb and Anne.
The antagonist in me loves SteveB's suggestion.
The compromising me (the one that usually wins out) says

• kilt to the rehearsal dinner

• formal kilt to the wedding if your husband is not in the wedding party and if that is what he would wear normally

• kilt to the reception if that is what he would wear normally

• * and you should play that song on the pipes, because the gifts with the most meaning are the ones you make/perform yourself. You are giving of yourself to your mother on her wedding day.

(I never said that I was good at compromise.)