I have read this entire thread with some interest. I too have stirred up some controversy over the upcoming holiday with my family, not over dress, but over Scooby's attendance on grandparents. My wife and I have not lived together for some time, but have still spent holidays together so we could both enjoy our son's company.

My cousins are hosting dinner this year and many of Scooby's cousins(second I guess really) will be attending. I have tried very hard in the years since my aunt's death to keep my son in touch with those other members of his generation and informed his mother and grandmama that he would be spending the holiday with my family this year. Grandmama is not pleased and mama is in the middle, which I feel bad about, but I've bent over backwards to make other people's holiday plans work, this one holiday is mine.

Both families have seen me kilted on occasion, I haven't decided whether I will be on Thanksgiving or not. No one will bat an eye either way, we're all a bit "out of the ordinary."

CC, I hope this works out for you; I would have trouble choosing not to be with some family for any holiday, but absent a current wife, my son's interests override for me.

Happy Holidays to All,

Bob