Ok, Ive held off as long at this to see what the rest of the Rabble has to say.

I must agree that Lady Griffien what has to say is very close to my ideas on the manner.

However I must say this; do no harm. If what you decide to do will estrange you from your family, do not do it. Be a bigger person than she, if she feels it necessary to diminish your special day, you do not have to respond in kind.

Before you do anything, know that there are others who value you just the way you are. Before you leave to NZ, if you want to have a "real" wedding, with pipers, handfasting, pinning of the tartan, and presentation of the family sword, the whole nine yards, and a whole bunch of guys in kilts from all over the planet, just let us know, and we will make it happen.

Oh, and by the way, I'll do the wedding for just the pictures, no cost. And I'll travel if you need it.

Rev. Bruce Richard Byers, AKA BroosterB1