Pay back time?

[Squeaky McMurdo]

Well, got back from my visit with my mother. She said the ceremony wasn't going to be big and that it was just going to be a small reception in a park in Red Lodge and she didn't care if people wear jeans.

Hubby told her he was going to wear his kilt then....not sure if she heard because she didn't say anything, but if everyone is wearing whatever I don't see the problem.

I do get along with my mom, although I'm usually prepared to take her with a grain of salt. She has no idea that she annoys me.

I took my sister shopping for her dress without my mom, mom was a little irritated at my sister so I didn't bring up NZ. I think I'll just email her some pictures of the ranches we're looking at buying and ask her what she thinks...then tell her where they are after she tells me she likes them. lol.


Secondly.....lol I'm only 23. I definitely haven't been married for 10 years. Although our 4th anniversary is coming up. Don't know if hubby will have his kilt by then. We plan to have pictures taken with hubby kilted (and hopefully I'll fit in my dress) and maybe do a party to which whoever is game is invited.

[###KILTEDKIWI###]

mom was a little irritated at my sister so I didn't bring up NZ. I think I'll just email her some pictures of the ranches we're looking at buying and ask her what she thinks...

hey squeaky, good to hear that you have made the decision to join us in Gods zone...(and in the best part of the country IMHO) (don't go to Australia ;), they have no water, unless you want to drink your own recycled you know whats...)

Your buying a ranch in the states before you move out here?

Or are you refering to farmlets / farm / lifestyle blocks here in NZ?

I'm sure that distance and time may mend some wounds, as it did for me when i ran out the door not looking back years ago. (controlling mother, hmm sounds familiar...)

anyway all the best

Phil C

[Downix]

Secondly.....lol I'm only 23. I definitely haven't been married for 10 years. Although our 4th anniversary is coming up. Don't know if hubby will have his kilt by then. We plan to have pictures taken with hubby kilted (and hopefully I'll fit in my dress) and maybe do a party to which whoever is game is invited.

We're going to call you on that you know...

[Downix]

I'm sure that distance and time may mend some wounds, as it did for me when i ran out the door not looking back years ago. (controlling mother, hmm sounds familiar...)

After this weekend with my wife and her controlling mother, I have to ask, am I the only person in the world with a mother that encourages their child, that does not control their lives or attempt to, who feels best when she sees me expressing myself as an individual?

[Squeaky McMurdo]

hey squeaky, good to hear that you have made the decision to join us in Gods zone...(and in the best part of the country IMHO) (don't go to Australia ;), they have no water, unless you want to drink your own recycled you know whats...)

Your buying a ranch in the states before you move out here?

Or are you refering to farmlets / farm / lifestyle blocks here in NZ?

I'm sure that distance and time may mend some wounds, as it did for me when i ran out the door not looking back years ago. (controlling mother, hmm sounds familiar...)

anyway all the best

Phil C

Land in NZ.
We may end up in Canterbury instead as there's more of what we're looking for there.

Here's one of them

This one looks like where we live now

This one is near Dunedin

What the heck does "Lifestyle block" mean? I've been wondering that for a while...

[###KILTEDKIWI###]

What the heck does "Lifestyle block" mean? I've been wondering that for a while...
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Life style block, well its a term used by people who work in town and retreat to a small section in the nights and weekends, about an acre or so and gives enough room to do a little farming...or something to that effect.

[Smayniac]

After this weekend with my wife and her controlling mother, I have to ask, am I the only person in the world with a mother that encourages their child, that does not control their lives or attempt to, who feels best when she sees me expressing myself as an individual?

My mother is great, my father has come around, largely under the influence of his second wife(I think), but I too see alot of controlling parents out there.

Bob

[Carolina Kiltman]

My mother is great, my father has come around, largely under the influence of his second wife(I think), but I too see alot of controlling parents out there.

Bob

As a parent (four times over) Grandparent, and I hope to be a G-Grandparent in the not too distant future, I am fully aware of how difficult it is to let go of your children.

I was doubly blessed with two parents who's own parents were the controlling kind. (I won't go into details here). They had the wisdom and love to let go a bit at a time as we grew older.

Finally as young adults it amounted to making a statement of advice, once.
That was it, unless I (we) wanted to discuss it further.

There are some out there, but if yours are not, just understand, raising kids ain't easy!

Frank

[RockyR]

The thing that confuses ME is why the anger of some parents is directed inwards toward the FAMILY member who is kilted and not OUTWARD toward the people who speak negatively about their own son!

If they expect 'unconditional love' as parents (which the SHOULD), shouldn't they provide the same?

[Freedomlover]

If they expect 'unconditional love' as parents (which they SHOULD), shouldn't they provide the same?

"Tolerance" is what is often preached but seldom practiced. You are tolerated (accepted, encouraged, supported) if, and only if, you conform to someone else's view of what is tolerable. See the definition of "liberal".