How to talk her into it?

[JSFMACLJR]

A womans wedding is one of the most important events in her life. It's something they think about from a young age. Her cousin has done this already, and she does not want to copy her. .

Hmmm. Did her cousin wear a white dress? Is your fiancee planning to wear a white dress? I'd have to insist that she forgo the white dress, because it's already been done.

Come on here, gentlemen! I worry about your future married happiness if you all fold like a deck of cards and give in to the fantasy of a wedding being for the bride only. I'm all for peace and harmony in a marriage, but what sort of message is being sent if we are told that we must ALWAYS do as the bride wants, because "it's her special day?"

For the record, I am very happily married. I wore a navy blazer and white flannels to my wedding. My choice. I could have worn the kilt but I went with this option. We were married in a civil ceremony, but soon after had our marriage blessed by our priest and a nuptial mass celebrated. I wore the kilt with a tweed jacket to this, and the party afterwards. My wife could not have been happier at either celebration (nor I too!). We planned all the details together for both occasions. The choice of what I wore was my choice. I needed no approval. My brother who was my best man wore the same as I did to the first ceremony, and a suit to the blessing. Again, he didn't need clearance.

I know how things go, but really, if two people love each other enough to get married, certainly they should be able to sit down together and share their expectations and hopes, and compromise if necessary. A beautiful, fantasy wedding means a great deal to her: your pride in your heritage and ancestory are dear to you. Why should there be a problem?

Best wishes,
Sandford
(whose dear wife is reading this thread and is in full agreement...with me of course!)