"The Question" On Line

[Riverkilt]

So, this 64 year old fat guy is on a few singles boards. Great way to meet ladies, chat on line, sometimes meet f2f for a date.

Saturday I got an email from a lady who liked my profile on a singles board because she is of Celtic heritage too, likes kilts, likes long hair, and is also in recovery. She's in South Pasadena, CA has a master's degree, and is 48 years old. 16 years younger than I. Okay fine.

Everything is going politely until her 4th email when she ends with "I suppose all the women want to know if you want to go panties shopping with them. I do."

I'm not sure exactly what she means here - so ask. She doesn't answer right away. I do get another chatty email that ends with this, "Okay, here's the requisite question. What do you wear underneath? Does it depend upon the day, or the weather, or the mood? Or the woman? Must know."

Okay, starting to see a focus of her interest here....

A few hours later she responds to my clarification question, "The panties shopping reference was kilt related. I assumed that you, like I, wear panties. Perhaps not!"


Lots of chatty, getting to know you stuff in the main part of the emails, but always returning to "the question."

So, I answered her questions, what the heck...explained about black jockey shorts for work, underkilts, freedom when hiking etc. I also pointed out the old thing about if I'd asked you what you wore under your skirts you'd have dumped the connection immediately.

Just got this response from her. "I'll let the undergarment questions go. It was actually rude of me to have asked in the first place. Quite the double standard that I was using."

Nice that she owned that.

Somewhere, there's a scientific or psychiatric answer to why women have such a need to ask "the question."

Ron

Mods, hope I've stayed appropriate here and I know we're tired of "the question" but getting asked it by email by a much younger woman I just met was a bit different.

[Yodhan]

That cracks me up. When a female asks me that question, and I do not know them too well, I usually say something along the lines of 'If asked you, you would be pretty pissed, so lets just leave it at that.'

Ironically it gets me more attention from them.

[BroosterB1]

Whle I can't say I get that question all the time, I have gotten on a couple of Social Networking site where I have posted pictures of my self in a kilt. These are not "dating" sites, just ones where people post to (facebook et al).

Gotta admit Ron, you do have a way of "bringing it"! And that's what we like about you!ith:

[Roderick]

Only been asked twice, but then I'm still new to the whole kilted scene...

Once was a random woman at the seawall on a cold but clear Robbie Burns day who went out of her way to approach me and said, "It's cold! You must be wearing something underneath!" I simply shrugged and said, "If I must, I must."

The other was a former student who asked me while I was out grocery shopping. I just looked at her, that cold, stoney stare of death that I give my kids when they ought to know they stepped out of line. She just laughed nervously and said, "Yeah, you're right. I probably don't want to know."

Hopefully not all women will feel the need to ask, and hopefully none will be so disturbingly uncomfortable as that second time.

Why women ask at all... I dunno. On another thread, someone was talking about the fact that people seem to be fascinated by kilts and by others' sexuality, so I wonder if it's all not just an extension of that.

[Rex_Tremende]

Just as in real life, I got tired of responding to The Question online when I posted some kilt photos in my profiles of some social networking sites that I participate(d) in. So I just added this preemption in my profile: "If you want to know what I wear under the kilt, you'll have to ask me out, but don't expect an answer on the first date."

Regards,
Rex.

[klingon warrior]

I think women's need to ask the question comes from their primal need to control men. But if somebody tells my wife I said this, I will deny it.

[JolyStNicholas]

Ron you handled that well, I was asked last week end at the Viet Nam Vetern'
s Memorial the same thing by a much younger lady, being dared by her friends,
tried not to give the wrong answer considering her age so I used the " hose and shoes" answer and walked away smiling to me self!

[Cynthia]

Hopefully not all women will feel the need to ask

There are indeed women who will not ask, and those who honestly (sorry guys) could care less what's under your kilt or not.

The only guy I'm concerned about is my hubby, and if I were single, I'd still be more interested in getting to know a guy I'm attracted to -- kilt or no kilt -- before even considering anything on that level.

I agree with you guys... works both ways. You'd get in trouble if you asked me what's under my skirt, and I think guys deserve the same respect.

[kiltedsawyer]

Ron, sounds like you might have a frisky one on the line. I think the question has become a self perpetuating curiousity for some people, male or female. The kilt is different, not something they see everyday, and the question has always been there since it was learned by the general public that some kilties go regimental. The lack of undergarments has always been considered, by some at least, to be some what promiscuous or naughty. I don't think there is ever any intent to be rude or offensive by asking the question. Sometimes I think they just don't know what else to say.
Respectfully,
David

[bchunter]

I think women's need to ask the question comes from their primal need to control men.

Ron, sounds like you might have a frisky one on the line.

I agree with both statements above, and will add that women have in large part accepted and use a double standard when it is advantegeous to them, whether this be "the question", waiting for a door to be opened, giving way to oncoming men in a hallway, etc. I'm not griping, mind you, merely observing and accepting. After all, I've been happily married for 32 years now.
The last time I had the question was this past Friday evening when I met a woman who asked if I was Scottish while exclaiming her Clan Grant lineage. When I affirmed my heritage she immediately popped out the question, right in front of my 18 year old daughter. My daughter beat me to the punch by merely stating that I "was appropriate".