well now ive gone and doon it

[Phogfan86]

Tell you what: my son is a senior in high school. He's 6-1 and 302 pounds. He specializes in knocking people down with malice and aforethought on the football field, and he has offers to continue to do so next year in college.

Let me send your wife copies of our grocery receipts for a week.

[dowofbuchanan]

at this point i should point out im not married to this one ... just been dating close to a year and known her since high school. and i like the vasectomy idea but i dont think most doctors will do them at my age. and forrestermodern... you may have done more harm than good ... she was lookin when i opened your link, shes immune to the baby thing cuz shes got god children and nephew neices. but i think im safe for now

[BoldHighlander]

at this point i should point out im not married to this one ... just been dating close to a year and known her since high school.

Not married yet, eh?
Well, you can't say you didn't have advanced warning

[ForresterModern]

at this point i should point out im not married to this one ... just been dating close to a year and known her since high school. and i like the vasectomy idea but i dont think most doctors will do them at my age. and forrestermodern... you may have done more harm than good ... she was lookin when i opened your link, shes immune to the baby thing cuz shes got god children and nephew neices. but i think im safe for now

Dow

Sorry if my link set you back a bit mate but fatherhood is a wonderful thing when you are ready for it, at whatever age. This little guy came out of my second marriage, with me at age 48 and her at 43. Yes we were trying (my wife lost her only previous child to cancer and I my two older ones to divorce)but not really expecting much. He is the light of our lives--something new, wonderful and amazing every day.

But the key words in the above paragraph are "when you are ready for it", and she needs to understand that as well as you. You will both know when it is time, if it is time.

Best, mate.

jeff :ootd:

[Dixiecat]

Well Duh the obvious answer is to borrow a really irritating noisy friends baby

I was already pregnant when I did this.

Did you know that a baby can blow a snot bubble 8" in diameter? Neither did I. I tell you, I was goggle-eyed and gob-smacked. (Not in the good way either)

I spent the next 5 months scared that I'd have the Guiness World Record attempter.

[csbdr]

Now, now....this can be used to your advantage. Be sure to bring up how cute it would be for you and the kiddo to have MATCHING kilts. My wife is a sucker for this. Of course, you always pick tartans which you have "always wanted"

[Alan H]

On a serious note, having a child is not a one-person decision. It takes two, both from the fertilization standpoint up through high school, and beyond. Once a parent. ALWAYS a parent, and that commitment is rightly taken by two people, who discuss it and come to a wise, sane agreement.. I honestly have to say that for me, being "pressured" to have a child would be grounds for divorce. Dicuss, yes. Talk it over, yes.

Get manipulated into saying "yes"? Well, it wouldn't happen here because while I have a long fuse and I can put up with a whole, whole lot of grief, there are limits. Getting manipulated into a lifetime emotional commitment, a twenty-year dose of overwhelming responsibility as well as a four hundred thousand dollar investment, is beyond my tolerance level.

It's a decision made, HOPEFULLY, by TWO people, who rejoice in it, understand at least to some degree what they're getting into, and look forward to it. It's NOT a decision made by one person who happens to go baby crazy.

[Highlander31]

On a serious note, having a child is not a one-person decision. It takes two, both from the fertilization standpoint up through high school, and beyond. Once a parent. ALWAYS a parent, and that commitment is rightly taken by two people, who discuss it and come to a wise, sane agreement.. I honestly have to say that for me, being "pressured" to have a child would be grounds for divorce. Dicuss, yes. Talk it over, yes.

Get manipulated into saying "yes"? Well, it wouldn't happen here because while I have a long fuse and I can put up with a whole, whole lot of grief, there are limits. Getting manipulated into a lifetime emotional commitment, a twenty-year dose of overwhelming responsibility as well as a four hundred thousand dollar investment, is beyond my tolerance level.

It's a decision made, HOPEFULLY, by TWO people, who rejoice in it, understand at least to some degree what they're getting into, and look forward to it. It's NOT a decision made by one person who happens to go baby crazy.

Alan's right. This decision takes two and it is a lifetime commitment emotionally and for a long period financially as well. I speak from experience. I've been with the same lady for over 30 years and we have 7 children. While there have been tough times (and the odds are there will be more in the future), the good times (for me at least) out weigh the bad 10 fold. Why so many? They're spaced out over decades and we enjoy the large family. Would I recommend it? No. It works for us because of who we are. I doubt that it would work for either one of us if we had married different partners instead of each other.

[dowofbuchanan]

yeah we arent going to talk about it for at least another year and ill still say no. also i do believe this is the longest thread ive ever started. i guess i should start all my threads with the word baby