Has this forum lost its...Panache?

**Riverkilt** · 12th March 10, 10:50 PM

With apologies to the late Dean Martin..

Goodbye forever old fellows and gals
Goodbye forever old sweethearts and pals
God Bless them
Gee, but I'd give the world to see
That old old gang of mine...

Everything changes - sometimes to the core. Witness the recent flurry of earthquakes and the grain of sand falling off the top of the mountain where the little bird sharpens its beak...

**Jock Scot** · 13th March 10, 01:12 AM

Originally Posted by Alan H

I see and hear from them pretty regularly...just saw the both of them last week. Both Panache and the Flame Haired Amazon Goddess and their children are well.

Temporally gone( not for too long I hope), but not forgotten. I am glad to hear that they are all well.

**NewEnglander** · 13th March 10, 06:01 AM

I raise a gin gimlet in his general direction and send well wishes...

**Bugbear** · 13th March 10, 06:06 AM

Dandelions.

**Detroitpete** · 13th March 10, 07:36 AM

Originally Posted by The F-H.C.A.G.

It's good to be missed!

There have been some reasons, other than family time, that Jamie has been absent. I also think it is unlikely that anything will be done to resolve the issues that have caused his absence, but time heals many wounds, so we'll see.

(Apologies and respect also heal wounds, but I don't foresee that happening any time soon.)

Enough said...

Be well,

Star

Star,
Thank you for letting us know. I'm sorry--very sorry--to see Panache no longer here. I would hope that whatever has lead to this absence would be remedied with respect and understanding.

**Riverkilt** · 13th March 10, 07:39 AM

"Our emotional distress often arises from our expectations of others—either expecting too much and not getting it, or expecting too little and getting it."

From a wonderful book by the late Dr. Paul O.

http://www.southbaybooks.com/youcant.html

**berserkbishop** · 13th March 10, 08:25 AM

Now I dont know Jamie personally, and I havent had much for dealings with him in the past on the forum, but I always enjoy his posts and wonderful pictures. He has always been someone that I seek to emulate as far as highland dress is considered. I hope that the issues that are making him feel unwelcome on this forum are remedied and that he returns to posting. This forum could use the levity that he once contributed.

Glad to hear that all is well with the household.

Yours
Bishop

**Streetcar** · 13th March 10, 09:18 AM

Originally Posted by The F-H.C.A.G.

It's good to be missed!

There have been some reasons, other than family time, that Jamie has been absent. I also think it is unlikely that anything will be done to resolve the issues that have caused his absence, but time heals many wounds, so we'll see.

(Apologies and respect also heal wounds, but I don't foresee that happening any time soon.)

Enough said...

Be well,

Star

Missed? That's a bit of an understatement.

There are a number of regular contributors to this board which truly give it it's personality, which help make it what it unique. I put you and Jamie high on that list. (And yes, you too Grant).
It's those personalities, that friendly banter that makes this forum what it is. Even most of the disagreements have an underlying respect between the posters. On the odd occasion where that respect is not there, the offending member is usually called out on it and an apology is usually made.

It's that sort of mutual respect that makes this feel like a family, not simply an informational forum. To be honest, that (in my opinion) is what keeps this forum alive.
Face it, how many posts can be made about pleat styles, how low to hang a sporran or how to respond to "the question?" If that's the goal of the forum, then all threads should be locked. If someone has a question or an insight, they can be directed to the appropriate threads from the past where the subject was covered. Perhaps some sort of search engine can be engineered for this purpose.

But I digress.

Jamie, Starr - be well. I sincerely hope your absence isn't over long, and remember you have friends here.

**Raphael** · 13th March 10, 09:46 AM

Originally Posted by Streetcar

It's that sort of mutual respect that makes this feel like a family, not simply an informational forum. To be honest, that (in my opinion) is what keeps this forum alive.
Face it, how many posts can be made about pleat styles, how low to hang a sporran or how to respond to "the question?" If that's the goal of the forum, then all threads should be locked. If someone has a question or an insight, they can be directed to the appropriate threads from the past where the subject was covered. Perhaps some sort of search engine can be engineered for this purpose.

But I digress.

Unfortunately, some people don't understand. They only see this board as an information board and that it is okay to not have any personality. They don't see the value of having fun people around or doing anything fun for others. It is sad to see the original spirit of XMTS is lost.

I will not be surprised to see that this forum turns into a propaganda machine in the near future. The lost of Valuable contributors is simply the first act, and who knows what the second act will be.

Jamie is still with us in the cyberspace, and it is good to see that we have another web address to socialise with each other. The other place is more open and we can have private chats without involving moderators. It is free and I can even log it wirelessly via an app on my iPhone...

**crboltz** · 13th March 10, 09:57 AM

When I joined the forum, Jamie made me feel so welcome and his presence has made this place on the web a classy, respectful, and comfortable. Thank you Jamie, and I hope you will return when the time is right for you.
Yours,
Chris