What to do with kilt everyone wants

**T-Bone** · 20th October 10, 05:12 AM

Originally Posted by Tiny

What about giving it to the eldest male descendent?

That would be me..the only male descendent.

Slag101--Giving it to his lodge sounds like the best idea yet.

All of us have fond memories of him WITHOUT the kilt. My mom is the only one that even remembers him in the kilt. I will see what they say about the donation.

Thanks,

T

**Slag101** · 20th October 10, 05:48 AM

Originally Posted by T-Bone

That would be me..the only male descendent.

Slag101--Giving it to his lodge sounds like the best idea yet.

All of us have fond memories of him WITHOUT the kilt. My mom is the only one that even remembers him in the kilt. I will see what they say about the donation.

Thanks,

T

I just know that it will be well cared for, respected, and available for your family to view when desired. We really hold dear are departed brothers and there families.

**Mike_Oettle** · 20th October 10, 12:37 PM

What a pity the moth was allowed to get at the kilt, T-Bone. But then my wife allowed that to happen to her old dancing kilt (she hates the smell of mothballs).
The idea of presenting it to the lodge is a good one.
And I can sympathise with all those people who have been driven to distraction by squabbles over the effects of a lost loved one.
I was unable to attend the funeral of either of my grandmothers, and my brothers and cousins grabbed all the best stuff. I suppose I should be grateful that my mother stepped in and steered her mother’s teasets in my direction. My wife has greatly appreciated having those old teapots, cups, saucers and plates, for all that they come from at least three different sets.
And my maternal grandfather was a Mason (Past Master Mason, Scottish Rite).
My cousin, who inherited the Masonic regalia of both our granddad and his own father, has presented them to their respective lodges, with the gratitude of those receiving them.
But I do recall that granddad had a number of swords, and I was rather unhappy to learn that instead of being divided among the grandsons, they were handed over to the Caledonian Society.
Regards,
Mike

**BLHS209** · 23rd October 10, 05:25 AM

Like other, family has been involved in the "infighting" for the departed's stuff. I won't go into details.

Otherwise as per your question - mounting/display is a good option, donating is another. But if they don't go that route, how about making memorial quilt(s)? If they both sew, it shouldn't be too hard. The tartan could be the "center piece".

Chris Shepherd

**Stratherrick** · 31st October 10, 03:42 PM

As a Fraser myself, here are a few suggestions if you decide to cut it up:

1. Give each female descendant a strip. Those unmarried can use it as part of any future marriage ceremony a la the handfasting in Braveheart - my wife and I did this, though we also used a strip of her father's kente cloth from Ghana as I didn't want it to be seen that she was becoming my 'property' or anything like that.

2. Give each male descendant a strip to include in a quilt/cushion that he, or somebody else, might make.

3. Send one strip to the Fraser heartlands around Inverness for burial in memoriam. Either somebody could take it from the USA or it could be posted over. I'd feel honoured to take it there on my next visit north of the border.

Slainte

Bruce

**BoldHighlander** · 3rd November 10, 01:42 AM

Originally Posted by BLHS209

Like other, family has been involved in the "infighting" for the departed's stuff. I won't go into details.

Ditto...

Originally Posted by Slag101

What would truly honor a Free Mason's memory would be to get it mounted in a display case, and donate it to his home lodge. In my lodge, we sometimes get a family that donates a departed brother's apron to the lodge. We then frame it, and hang it in the lodge. The exception to this, at times, is if another male family member is a brother mason, then the items are given to him. In my case, when my little guy is old enough, if he chooses to be made a mason, I will leave him all my regalia, including my kilt from my membership in the Masonic Kilties.

Obviously, if he was in the pipe band, Masonry had great significance to him. It is only right that his masonic regalia be returned to it's rightful place, his lodge, where is memory will be honored by every brother who sees it. Also, the items will be cared for with the dignity and respect a departed brother deserves. This will also put an end to all the family squabbling.

Bravo!!!

I really think this is the best solution of all (& most honorable to your grandfather's memory)!