Pay back time?

[Nighthawk]

And your husband is still speaking to her?

I wouldn't be...

[Wompet]

The family peace-keeper in me goes with Glen, Jamie, Barb and Anne.
The antagonist in me loves SteveB's suggestion.
The compromising me (the one that usually wins out) says

• kilt to the rehearsal dinner

• formal kilt to the wedding if your husband is not in the wedding party and if that is what he would wear normally

• kilt to the reception if that is what he would wear normally

• * and you should play that song on the pipes, because the gifts with the most meaning are the ones you make/perform yourself. You are giving of yourself to your mother on her wedding day.

(I never said that I was good at compromise.)

[RamsayClanCommish]

I would tell the future groom all about it and suggest HE wear a kilt. Since apparently he had no problems with the great Highland heritage. If he has a trace of the blood in him, he will see the righteous retribution and wear a kilt you help him rent.

Then tell mother you exchanged his tux for a kilt as you didnt want her to look back and regret something. Then change her first dance music to "Flower of Scotland".

[Kilted_John]

DOO EET! If someone did that to me, I would return the "favor". No questions asked. And, definitely get the groom kilted.

-J

[Squeaky McMurdo]

I say wear a kilt if you feel like it and pray, pray, pray that she doesn't decide to move to New Zealand.

Don't even joke about that

[Ian.MacAllan]

I would personally take the high road. . . . it seems to me like the woman didn't realize she did anything wrong. . . .

That's not just the high road, Dave, that's extraterrestrial. Her timing---too late for anyone to undo her meddling---denies her innocence. Let us keep Squeaky and her husband (and her sister and her betrothed) in our prayers.

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[English Bloke]

I don't advocate you follow my advice but were I in your shoes Squeaky, I would not attend the wedding. In fact, there is not a hammer big enough to drive the wedge that I would have already put in place.

I would also treat your move to New Zealand as an opportunity to permanently close the door. I wouldn't even give the woman my new address. No letters, no phonecalls, no emails, no christamas cards, nothing.

As you may notice I am not a very forgiving person so please don't do what I would do.

[Freedomlover]

So my hubby is finally getting a tank (yay!)

My question is this: Should he wear it to my mom's wedding?


Here's the juicy background info:
My hubby had rented a nice kilt outfit for OUR wedding. We got married in Billings, MT so we stayed at my parents' house (my parents were still married then...) We were to be married the next day.

Well, unbeknownst to us, my mother had RETURNED hubby's kilt the day before and EXCHANGED it for a tuxedo and pants. So an hour before we were supposed to get married (on New Year's Eve Day so a lot of places including the rental places were closed) we discovered this and we had to get all our wedding pictures with my new hubby in pants.

When confronted my mother said she, "Didn't think kilts were appropriate wedding attire and didn't want me to to look back on my wedding day with regret."

How dare she? That is outrageous. It was YOUR day, not hers!

So now she's getting remarried in January....should he do some pay back?

If your hubby shows up in a kilt when you both know she doesn't like it, that is no different than what she did. Just as your day was yours, her day is hers. She smote you upon the right cheek without a cause, so the best course of action would be to give her the other one as well. Or if you want to be a little less subtle just don't attend.

[prb]

What did he end up wearing for your wedding? Personally I wouldn't dream of turning up to anyone's wedding, let alone my own, in a Dinner Jacket. Dinner Jackets are not in any way appropriate wedding attire.

Were that to have happened to me, the options would have been:
a) Turn up in whatever of my own clothes I have with me, well-fitting casuals are smarter than ill-fitting evening wear.
b) Chuck a massive tantrum and not go.

Either way, I would have instructed my ushers to keep her away from the event.

So, your options here are:
a) Take her dress to the cleaners, just to make sure it looks nice for the wedding
b) Take the bridegroom's kit back to the shop to exchange for something smarter.
c) Go to the wedding as normal, quickly get embarrassingly drunk, and throw up on her just before the photos.

If you can't get drunk quickly enough for plan (c), ensure that for any photos you are in, you are making bunny-ears on whoever you are next to.

[davedove]

That's not just the high road, Dave, that's extraterrestrial. Her timing---too late for anyone to undo her meddling---denies her innocence. Let us keep Squeaky and her husband (and her sister and her betrothed) in our prayers.

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Possibly, and only Squeaky is close enough to really know, but I have known people like that in my life who have absolutely NO clue that what they're doing is wrong. And the difficult part is that they mean well and think they are helping.