A quandry: woman at wedding with camera

[Schultz]

Besides, just tell her that, although you are not a full-blooded Scot, you did stay at a Holiday Inn Express last night....

Bless, Father!

THIS is the best comeback I've ever heard to that question!

I will definitely be using this the next time I have the opportunity!

[Prester John]

Yeah, I can't wait to use it.

On another note, our kilts just arrived about 2 hours ago. My oldest son hasn't taken it off yet.

I guess I know what to get him for Christmas.

Ugh, and I have 3 boys.

[Bob C]

Hrmmm? I thought that sort of thing is what the Maid of Honor and Best Man are for...

I agree with take the camera. Also explain kindly you wouldn't want the mother of the bride to get in trouble like my mom almost did when she developed our disposable cameras from the reception and someone had taken a picture under a bathroom stall...

Poor ol' Joe- I still can't see him without thinking, "What a lucky wife..."

I bet you're a fun girl to be around, Shay. :-)

[Alan H]

Oh, another reason I didn't want to make a fuss....

The brides family has (had) seven sisters and one brother. The wedding was on Saturday. The Thursday before, ten days before the wedding, the brother in the family died from a massive stroke while on a camping trip. Phil told me about it before the ceremony. It sounded like the brides mom and dad were on the emotional roller-coaster ride from hell during the week before the wedding. So involving the brides mother would have been a no-no. She needed her happy-time to balance what must have been a terrible heartbreak for her. Joanne's brother, apparently was all of 50 years old.

...which in a way, brings a new perspective to all of it. Don't sweat the small stuff.....like stupid broads trying to take pictures up my kilt.

On the other hand, snagging the camera (gently) by saying "let's get a pic of us together", and then "accidentally" jumping on it.....or dropping it in the sink, would have gotten the message across. If THAT hadn't gotten the message driven in, then she'd really have been brainless and for those people there's no hope.

[bubba]

Don't sweat the petty things, but it's ok to pet the sweaty things

[Alan H]

Well, Bubba, you oughtta see me after dancing for two hours to good rock and roll!

Aye, sweaty!!!!

Nothing like rock and roll in a kilt to make the ladies eyes roll back in their heads... LOLOL

[Verlyn]

Alan, I think you handled in the best way you could. The wedding party thought the kilt was great and that's enough. I'm sure anyone else that saw the goings on say the complete fool she was making of herself. My daughter's wedding is coming up and she was unsure of letting her intended have kilts because of how her future mother-in-law would react (she likes the kilts, but in her pea brain, they're "costumes" for ren faires and thinks that's the way it is no matter how often we explain, no its an ethnic thing, not costume). When she told her fiance that if his father would wear one on, she would agree, you should have seen future MIL reaction. Especially when future FIL said that would be cool. Now, she'll either grumble and go along or make a complete fool of herself while the rest of both families are dressed to the nines in kilts; me, my sons, the groom, his brother and father and the grooms me and my brother-in-law. We've told my daughter if she wants to show up in ren faire garb and make a fool of herself, let her. She'll embarass herself and maybe finally learn that kilts are clothing, not costumes and we're wearing them as a full formal suit for the day, not a costume. Fortunately for me, USAKilts carries the tartan for my boys and me in a price range that won't hurt (much).

Shultz, what is that gorgeous tartan in your avitar?

[Archangel]

Yep, tacky, tacky, tacky

So, if people are being traditional, then it's the best man's or maid of honour's role to handle this kind of thing. That way the bridal family are not distracted and the wedding continues.

Although the "let me take your picture" and disappearing camera trick works for me.

[Schultz]

Shultz, what is that gorgeous tartan in your avitar?

That would be what's called the Double Davidson.

I'm taking very much the approach that my future mother-in-law will just end up making an *** out herself if she decides to perform on our wedding day. For a woman who has an almost paranoiac concern of what other people think of her, though, we think she'll behave at least civilly.

[Shay]

she likes the kilts, but in her pea brain, they're "costumes" for ren faires and thinks that's the way it is no matter how often we explain, no its an ethnic thing, not costume

What nationality is her family? I'm just curious, maybe you can find something she could identify with and not be so nervous.