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11th January 06, 04:20 PM
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I will absolutely still keep seeing her. Afterall she is a student and the kid is at daycare every day mon-fri and i have many free days usually at middle of the week so if she dont want to introduce the kid yet we can still keep seeing... easily. Well, we will see. She is very reserved about men, because the father of the boy turned out to be the worst kind of *******.
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11th January 06, 04:38 PM
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As a former single mom myself, I was very cautious about who I told my daughter about or whom I told about her- while I'm not all, "Oooh! Pedophiles are peeking through the cracks!" there is a legitimate concern that someone could pretend to love me to get to my daughter... sad though that is for everyone involved.
I'd say keep seeing her, and ask her what she thinks is a reasonable point for you to meet her child and how. If she says RIGHTNOWOMGLETSGO... eep. If she says something like, "Maybe you can come over for a dinner when we get to know each other better," that's pretty normal. Anything low key (remember, 2.5 year olds are a bit noisy, smelly, and rammy by their nature, so maximize the comfort level) is fine- just try to remember that the kid's not going to be interested in you for a while since, as my darling husband put it, "You're the one who takes Mommy away."
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11th January 06, 04:08 PM
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In my opinion, the son is no big deal. I mean, that's what life is all about.
What you need to find out about is the Father. Is he still around? Is he interested in the boy? Whether the mother cares for the Father at all or not, he WILL be a part of her life as long as his son is. Alot depends on that.
Just my two cents...
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12th January 06, 04:01 PM
#4
If your really like her, just keep dating her and don't meet the kid until much later. And for god sakes don't have unprotected sex with her.
She probably didn't tell you she had a kid on the front end because she was into you and didn't want to scare you away.
Me personally, I generally don't date a whole lot of women with children for the main reason is complicates things and I don't like complications when they aren't of my own making. Besides, I want to enjoy marriage for a few years without having an instant family and have to deal with issue relating to children.
Just my 2 cents
Last edited by minimalistix; 12th January 06 at 04:08 PM.
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