Told NO!

[Rampant Lion]

R. A.
It's too bad that your "Frau" feels as she does. To me, a classical concert is an ideal setting to wear the kilt. She's right that it may draw attention, but I would only think that it'd be before the show when arriving at the venue and after when you're leaving. You could make the point that once you're seated no one except the people seated beside you will even notice the kilt. Anyway, these are the points I'd use if I had to make an argument for the kilt.

Will

[Riverkilt]

So sad to see such extreme problem solving in a marriage.

Don't know your wife, but on a general basis would suggest you negotiate if at all possible.

Ask to wear the kilt and ask her to observe the reactions and non-reactions of others.

Sounds like she's having deep fear of being embarrassed.

From what I've seen of the way people dress in Florida....well....a kilt would seem quite formal....

Ron

[Blu (Ontario)]

.... The reason: We are there to enjoy the show, not to steal the spotlight...

This is such rubbish it's almost embarrassing. But it's the kind of silly nonsense that many members have had to swallow at one time or other. Whatever you choose to do... good luck.

[morrison]

Forego the kilt. Carry no thought of the occassion afterward. DO NOT remember that you did not wear the kilt. Rather, focus on the concert, your companions and the fun of it all. Do not pocket any ammunition, it makes searing charlie horses. It also distracts you away from clear thinking. You ought, however, make a noticeable hint of a specific dress or outfit for the wife at some future time while in the process of suiting yourself up into that excellent kilt. Sooner would be better. Most important, be sincere in your laughter and love your wife, starting now!

[KiltedCodeWarrior]

I'll agree with all others that some battles are not worth fighting, especially early in your kilt wearing career. My wife has gradually gotten over the notion that I wear a kilt primarily for attention (I think we all enjoy the attention at least a little bit), but because it is comfortable.

However, a kilt is still not common daily wear for most folks and can lead to more attention that our loved ones are not expecting, such as below:

[Graham]

You got to meet the King?? well done, just shows what avenues open to the kilted!

[ian]

Forego the kilt. Carry no thought of the occassion afterward. DO NOT remember that you did not wear the kilt. Rather, focus on the concert, your companions and the fun of it all. Do not pocket any ammunition, it makes searing charlie horses. It also distracts you away from clear thinking. You ought, however, make a noticeable hint of a specific dress or outfit for the wife at some future time while in the process of suiting yourself up into that excellent kilt. Sooner would be better. Most important, be sincere in your laughter and love your wife, starting now!

You and your sound advice, ENOUGH! ENOUGH I SAY!

Well, you do have a point, but I don't understand the female mind at times. Luckily, my wife doesn't care one way or another.

Yea, if he insists he may regret it later. Better to live through it for one night than suffer for it weeks later.

[bubba]

Well, you do have a point, but I don't understand the female mind

You're not supposed to, it's just the way it works.

[ian]

You and your sound advice, ENOUGH! ENOUGH I SAY!

Well, you do have a point, but I don't understand the female mind at times. Luckily, my wife doesn't care one way or another.

Yea, if he insists he may regret it later. Better to live through it for one night than suffer for it weeks later.

That I gloated about the fact my wife didn't care.

This morning she asked me to take her to a dinner and movie. I asked "Should I wear a kilt or my trews?" She said there was a time and place for everything and didn't want me to wear a kilt because she didn't want "attention being drawn to you."

What?!? This is the first time this has happened. I have gone out to dinners and movies wearing a kilt quite often. This isn't a Broadway play or an Opera, but "dinner and a movie."

I find it odd that conditions are placed on men that woman don't feel obliged to respect themselves. A woman has the freedom to wear a skirt or a cowboy hat and boots, dress and move in and out at their pleasure of being a woman one minute and the feminists ideal "as good as a man." It could be attire attributed to men or women. Maybe even showing a little more cleavage if they wish. It's not a privilege, but a right.

Men are not afforded the opportunity to wear a decidedly male garment due to the attention it MAY get. I could care less about the attention factor. Most people don't say anything or even care. It's an issue of respect and it works both ways. I was shocked. I thought it would never happen or be an issue. She has bought me 2 kilts.

Sorry, I change my position. If women want respect for their choices, they should respect their spouse's wishes. Women predominately dress for attention as a rule more so than men. Why go to the Beauty shop, paint nails etc? I'm not seeking attention nor will I dump my wife in the restaurent if a waitress makes a comment.

I asked her why her logic applied to me and not to her. "What if I shaved my head and worn a suit and a tie, would you feel comfortable." I simply said "Go ahead, I could dress like Eddy Izzard, (Executive Transvestite) you accept his appearence." Is Izzard doing it for attention or the fact he wants to? She said it was to enjoy "our" night out, which "our" implies both of us.

She is a supportive woman, but it just hit me like a fart in a divers mask.

[Mark Keeney]

That I gloated about the fact my wife didn't care.

This morning she asked me to take her to a dinner and movie. I asked "Should I wear a kilt or my trews?" She said there was a time and place for everything and didn't want me to wear a kilt because she didn't want "attention being drawn to you."

Why did you ask? You set yourself up. Why can't women bear attention given to the men they are with?

My wife needs a night on the town she loves my kilt.