Wedding Kilts

**Blu (Ontario)** · 25th October 06, 04:43 PM

A sincere (and hopefully not indelicate) question from a straight fellow.....

At affairs such as this is "Bride and Groom" still the proper terminology or are other references used?

Can there be bridesmen and groomsmaids as well?

**Beertigger** · 25th October 06, 05:57 PM

Congrats!

**crboltz** · 25th October 06, 09:33 PM

Terms for same sex weddings are up in the air. I know, for lack of a better term, I was a brides maid in a dear friends wedding (in fact the only 2 females in the wedding party were the bride and the maid of honor -- as the bride put it "I don't get along with women") We are going with the statement that there are 2 groomsmen, 2 best men, and 2 ring bearers. We are toying with asking the spouces of the best men and the parents of the ring bearers to be ushers and ask our guests "Friend of the groom or friend of the groom?" But i'm not sure everyone will appreciate my sence of humor. There are a number of people coming who I said they want to come who I thought would be upset with the concept, and a bunch who will be shocked when we are all in kilts. So there will be enough 'angst' without my bad jokes all day.

BUT who knows.

Thanks again for all the advice I've gotten.

**cessna152towser** · 27th October 06, 12:22 PM

Just because you and your best man don't have a family tartan there's no reason not to wear a tartan kilt - plenty of smart modern tartans with no family or locality connections nowadays - Pride of Scotland or Spirit of Scotland spring immediately to mind. Best of luck!

**crboltz** · 29th October 06, 08:33 AM

Some good news, we discovered that my best man's family does have a tartan, the bad news is my best man says he wouldn't be caught dead in it. (I haven't seen the tartan, but seeing my best mans wardrobe, I shutter to think what is so ugly he wouldn't be seen in it -- JUST KIDDING) We are now leaning to putting the grooms in my finencee's tartan, and the best men in my partner's best man's tartan --- and the ring boys? I don't know yet, one does not have a family tartan (to quote his mother, "I don't think there are scottish jews, chris", his dad actually did some research and came back with "no family tartan that I can find"), and the other is my partners best man's son -- so maybe we will dress the little one's to match the best men.

On the up side I just sewed my first kilt that wasn't a solid color, on the down side, I don't want to do it again -- boy do kilt paterns get more complicated when you have to take the set into account. I got off about an inch and didn't notice until I sewed in the waist, luckily I was smart enough to place the most obvious evidence of messing up on the under apron, but the right hip isn't as nice as I'd like. I also learned -- Flannel, warm, comphy, not fun to sew (but it was on sale so it make a good thing to experiment with!)

Cheers all,
And Thanks again
Chris

**Panache** · 29th October 06, 08:51 AM

Originally Posted by crboltz

... the bad news is my best man says he wouldn't be caught dead in it. (I haven't seen the tartan, but seeing my best mans wardrobe, I shutter to think what is so ugly he wouldn't be seen in it...

Tell your best man a hearty hello from someone who married into his clan, which I assume must be Mcleod of Lewis ...

Cheers