A favor.

**Rusty** · 23rd March 07, 05:48 AM

Last two weddings I attended were kilted. Everyone commented on the look even one of the groomsmen went home and changed into his kilt for the reception. I did, however ask the bride before the wedding if she had any objections. So, in your case maybe you should ask the bride as it is her day. Just my tuppence worth

**Fearnest** · 23rd March 07, 05:52 AM

Good luck with your battle - but remember, in the long run, the day is for the bride and groom (and have they voiced an opinion either way?).

**PiobBear** · 23rd March 07, 06:10 AM

**Caradoc** · 23rd March 07, 06:27 AM

Originally Posted by elitekiltedcommando

I was originally told I could wear a kilt to my cousin's wedding in a few weeks. Now I have been informed that I am to wear pants because 'it is a formal event'. Would you guys mind posting some pictures so I can prove to my mom that kilts are quite appropriate for a wedding?

Is the request to wear pants coming from your mother, or from the bride and/or groom?

Arguing with your mother is one thing. Arguing with the folks whose wedding it is, well, that's something else entirely.

I'd hate to see you make an issue of yourself on *their* happy day.

**crboltz** · 23rd March 07, 07:24 AM

At my upcoming wedding, the wedding party will all be kilted, and we have been encouraging the guests to come kilted as well (but at the moment I think there will be at most 2 kilted guests -- but who knows-- several of the guys I know who are attending are on the edge of buying a kilt to wear "at the wedding" -- and I think they will wear it more than that -- we've told them casual kilts were OK to wear!)

**elitekiltedcommando** · 23rd March 07, 01:32 PM

Originally Posted by Caradoc

Is the request to wear pants coming from your mother, or from the bride and/or groom?

Arguing with your mother is one thing. Arguing with the folks whose wedding it is, well, that's something else entirely.

I'd hate to see you make an issue of yourself on *their* happy day.

It's my mom that has an issue with it. My uncle said it is to be a formal occasion and left it at that.

**Caradoc** · 23rd March 07, 02:45 PM

Originally Posted by elitekiltedcommando

It's my mom that has an issue with it. My uncle said it is to be a formal occasion and left it at that.

I'd leave it up to the bride and groom, and the bounds of good taste.

Do you have the kit to go "formal?" If not, don't wear the kilt.

If you show up to a "formal" gathering (even in the United States) wearing a Utilikilt, T-shirt, and nylon sporran, you'll look like a buffoon.

If you've got a nice set of black leathers, a decent Argyll, Crail, or Prince Charlie coat (with or without the waistcoat), and all of the accoutrements to pull it off, take a picture of yourself in the outfit and send it to the bride and groom, and if they *want* you there in that outfit, so be it. If you don't have the kit to do it, please don't try it. See these threads for ideas:

"Dressy"

"Formal"

The latter would be where you should aim if the guests are supposed to be in tuxedoes, while the "Dressy" might be passable if they're in the equivalent of weekday business suits.

I know my mother wouldn't argue the wishes of a bride and groom that weren't her children - would yours?

Keep this foremost in your mind, though - it's their day, not yours, and I (and my grandmothers, living and dead) would highly disapprove of upstaging the wedding party, or showing up looking like a clown.

**ozone** · 23rd March 07, 02:57 PM

Here's my two cents: I recently was going to wear a kilt to a Friend's wedding, but i didn't. My rationale was that it was a semi-formal wedding, out-of-doors. Although it would have been fun, I felt that compared to the wedding party, I would have stuck out quite a bit.

In the end. I felt I made the right choice because the wedding party wore nice tuxes with tevas (the bride and groom were river guides, what can I say?). I would have indeed stuck out and I think it would have detracted from the wedding party, who should be the main event of the day after all.

All of this is to say that perhaps you should feel out what the style of wedding will be, what the reception will be like etc. etc. I know, it's a pain, but don't forget that it's the Bride and Groom's show, not anyone else's.

**Frog** · 25th March 07, 02:52 PM

My wife and I at our casual wedding; I'm wearing a UK mocker. She chose her dress claiming she wanted people looking at her, not me - like they would!

Frog

**Chef** · 25th March 07, 06:47 PM

As you have already heard it is the Bride and Grooms day and you want to do nothing to take away from that.

If you have jacket accessories to dress your kilt up with the proper formality for the wedding then by all means show your mother the many pics on the forums and hopefully she will change her mind. If you don't have the right outfit then skip the kilt. A situation like this is not the place for a rebel look, a utilikilt or other kilt-like garment.

So often we tell guys here to be themselves and be proud of what they wear. Along with court this may be one of the times to go with societal norms rather than your tastes.