To the Kilted Clergy of the group

**James MacMillan** · 12th November 07, 07:47 AM

Isn't the Father of the bride supposed to spring for all the wedding expenses? If that could work, have him buy you a new kilt..

**Ian.MacAllan** · 13th November 07, 08:15 AM

Originally Posted by James MacMillan

Isn't the Father of the bride supposed to spring for all the wedding expenses? , , ,

For all I know that may be the custom in some communities but the custom with which I am familiar specifies that the groom's expenses, including the rehearsal dinner, the groomsmen's expenses, a gift for the bride, and of course the honeymoon, are all the groom's responsibility.

Of course, grace sometimes requires this custom to yield to the reality of a particular situation. I once attended a wedding in which the bride's family was financially strapped just in getting themselves to the wedding, so the bridal couple assumed all responsibility for the expenses. The groom's father refused any responsibility in the matter, but I think he must have given them a very generous wedding present because they paid off their debt in barely more than a year.

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**Ozman1944** · 12th November 07, 10:24 AM

Hey! What a great idea! the Bride's father paying up. (Actually a kilt expense is nothing compared to the main wedding costs Hmmm......!
This is a Frugal Corner Clergy 13 oz. $61.00

**James MacMillan** · 12th November 07, 10:48 AM

Originally Posted by Ozman1944

That looks good! Does your sect mandate the colors?

Just a question, as I have seen many men of the cloth with different shirts on, and was wondering if you are forced to wear black all the time?

**keepoffgrass** · 12th November 07, 10:57 AM

the father of one of the brides is also the father of minister. lol The brides wont be upstaged either, they have requested the kilt. I have a frugal corner clark tartan kilt, its ok, but I dont like the feel and the hang so much, and its hot and doesnt breath. You just cant beat wool.

**Graywolf** · 12th November 07, 11:13 AM

Not being ordained, I don't have a lot to say - but wear your best kilt and good luck. Also if you don't mind-what denomination? I am Anglican Catholic myself and a layreader. Also Sr. Warden. This coming Sunday I have been requested to speak at the Episcopal Church up the road - they are doing Kirking of the Tartans, and the following Sunday, Nov 25 - I will be conducting St Andrew's Day Morning Prayer services, using Laud's Book, 1637 Scottish Book of Common Prayer, at our church.

**McClef** · 12th November 07, 01:28 PM

Originally Posted by Graywolf

and the following Sunday, Nov 25 - I will be conducting St Andrew's Day Morning Prayer services, using Laud's Book, 1637 Scottish Book of Common Prayer, at our church.

Ah the book that started the riots in St Giles, Edinburgh!

Make sure that everything is locked down!

Seriously though that riot was far from spontaneous so you should be safe!

**keepoffgrass** · 12th November 07, 09:54 PM

Originally Posted by Graywolf

Not being ordained, I don't have a lot to say - but wear your best kilt and good luck. Also if you don't mind-what denomination? I am Anglican Catholic myself and a layreader. Also Sr. Warden. This coming Sunday I have been requested to speak at the Episcopal Church up the road - they are doing Kirking of the Tartans, and the following Sunday, Nov 25 - I will be conducting St Andrew's Day Morning Prayer services, using Laud's Book, 1637 Scottish Book of Common Prayer, at our church.

I'm a ordained through Universal Life Church.

also, I think you guys are right about the red being to flashy. I'm going to go with a black shirt no matter the tartan I wear.

**Galician** · 13th November 07, 08:02 AM

Originally Posted by keepoffgrass

I'm a ordained through Universal Life Church. also, I think you guys are right about the red being to flashy. I'm going to go with a black shirt no matter the tartan I wear.

Actually, there is a whole range of clergy shirts available: white, blue and grey. You could always choose one of these which best goes with your kilt.

What do you plan to wear for your own wedding?

Another aside, in the Roman tradition the purple used for Lent is often a deeper shade (called Roman Purple) than that used for Advent.

**keepoffgrass** · 13th November 07, 10:29 AM

Originally Posted by Galician

Actually, there is a whole range of clergy shirts available: white, blue and grey. You could always choose one of these which best goes with your kilt.

What do you plan to wear for your own wedding?

Another aside, in the Roman tradition the purple used for Lent is often a deeper shade (called Roman Purple) than that used for Advent.

Im wearing my clan tank and a pc to my own wedding