When faced with a dilemma, choose both

**Iain Robb** · 29th August 08, 05:07 AM

I was in a similar situation recently. The bride had commented that I should come to the wedding in a kilt before she asked me to be their photographer.

I certainly felt that I had permission to attend, and to photograph, in a kilt. But I chose to wear a suit in order to be as inconspicuous as possible, and when I took the time to explain that to the bride, she appreciated it.

By the way, I would have been the only one kilted. That too makes a difference.

**KiltedBrewer** · 29th August 08, 06:58 AM

Having gotten married recently, my advice is to ask the bride and/or the bride's mother if they'd mind the kilt. If they're not happy, nobody's happy.

**Mr. bone** · 29th August 08, 07:38 AM

I agree with Rex. Having done wedding photography in the past, even though you got drafted, it's bad sport to upstage the bride. But at least you can wear it home!

**ScottEPooh** · 29th August 08, 09:10 AM

Well, with everyone agreeing with Rex, I'm gonna have to be different and agree with Alan! No suit, no kilt, no problems!!! :-)

**Highland Logan** · 29th August 08, 09:30 AM

Originally Posted by ScottEPooh

Well, with everyone agreeing with Rex, I'm gonna have to be different and agree with Alan! No suit, no kilt, no problems!!! :-)

Off topic, but ScottEPooh, why a Muppet song lyrics in your sig line?

Frank

**siva011** · 29th August 08, 09:55 AM

Of course ask the couple what they think. Better they know than be surprised on their day.

Originally Posted by funlvnman

Current mood tells that I'll wear the suit to the wedding and change into my kilt for the reception.

This would be the path I would take....

**Dr Mac** · 29th August 08, 10:23 AM

Kilted Brewer is spot on... if Mother ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.

**funlvnman** · 30th August 08, 08:25 AM

Wedding starts in a few hours. We're still driving to the wedding. I'm leaning towards the suit at the wedding and the beginning of the reception, then changing into my kilt. However as far as fitting in. The wedding is at a dude ranch where I'm told everyone will be wearing their "best denim". I'm going to stand out no matter what.

You're all right though. Don't upstage the bride and groom!

Thanks everybody
Rich

**Carolina Kiltman** · 30th August 08, 01:13 PM

Our congratulations and best wishes to the Bride and Groom -- from a pair of 50 year veterans!

**randal** · 31st August 08, 09:38 PM

Having just been invited to wear my kilt (by the bride and her mom) to a wedding I would definetley say ask the bride. It's pretty much her show anyway. Like so many other wise men here have said, "If momma's not happy, nobody's happy".