A little ticked....

**cavscout** · 14th November 08, 09:47 PM

Ya know, the "high road" and "bigger man" answer is to leave the kilt at home and attend the dinner in peace.

However, I don't like heights and I don't need to be the bigger man so I think you did just fine. If the event is being held at a restaurant who are they to dictate what you will wear? Can you demand that all the women wear dresses? Their request is totally inappropriate.

I would though invite your Mother (Parents) over for a small family dinner if you so desire. Making the gesture will be good enough. Wasn't sure if your mother was anti-kilt and involved in the ultimatum.

**robthehiker** · 27th November 08, 05:34 PM

Originally Posted by cavscout

Ya know, the "high road" and "bigger man" answer is to leave the kilt at home and attend the dinner in peace.

However, I don't like heights and I don't need to be the bigger man so I think you did just fine. If the event is being held at a restaurant who are they to dictate what you will wear? Can you demand that all the women wear dresses? Their request is totally inappropriate.

I would though invite your Mother (Parents) over for a small family dinner if you so desire. Making the gesture will be good enough. Wasn't sure if your mother was anti-kilt and involved in the ultimatum.

Well said cavscout. I'm with you and celtic cowboy on this one. To me this is bigger than "What's more important? Family or kilts?"

Your pictures are wonderful. You all look so proud. Well done.

**Nighthawk** · 27th November 08, 08:59 PM

I just got home from dinner with my in laws, whom, I might ad, I love to death. My mother in law told us that she loves my Black Stewart and that it looks great on me.

I'm thankful for that, especially in light of this thread.

**###KILTEDKIWI###** · 14th November 08, 11:51 PM

brother refuses to admit that our family even came form Scotland, and has told his kids that we are not Scottish and that real Scots do not wear kilts. He believes that nothing happed in history prior to the Cival War, and gives me the "Skirt" comment all the time.

If you dont know where your from, how the hell do you know where you are going?????

**ardchoille** · 15th November 08, 12:02 AM

Wear your kilt with pride, I say. Those who mind won't matter.. and those who matter won't mind.

**DWFII** · 15th November 08, 06:45 AM

"Cowboy Pride will always get a man through but cowboy pride will make a fool of you..." Ian Tyson

**McFarkus** · 15th November 08, 07:03 AM

I'm afraid I would have the same reaction. If it were only the kilt, I might give in (my brother and I did for my niece's graduation - she says when we wear kilts, everything is all about us and this was her day). But on top of it your mother announces without discussing it with you that you were all going to a restaurant for Thanksgiving instead of a family home (which is your preference).

I would cook a meal at home and invite some friends over. Let the others "have a nice meal" (as you put it).

**DWFII** · 15th November 08, 07:25 AM

I agree with Woodsman...the best idea is to wear trews. I've been thinking along those lines myself. When a kilt is not wanted (either by yourself or someone whose opinion has influence) trews would be perfect. You could still wear your Argyll jacket and still remember your Scots heritage.

**Coinneach** · 15th November 08, 09:03 AM

I'd go to Thanksgiving dinner with the family and wear a kilt and let grandma explain why she can't decide what another grown-up gets to wear. She made the promise. It's your mother's responsibility. You're there to enjoy your family. Your mother needs to put family before garment, too.

**cessna152towser** · 15th November 08, 09:20 AM

I'd be worried that you are now a grown man with a wife and son of your own yet your mother is such a control freak that she thinks she can still dictate what you wear.
Yet she is still your mother and your son's grandmother and you should cherish her. One of my biggest regrets in life is that my parents are already dead yet I feel my own family is not yet complete, so any future kids of mine won't have their paternal grandparents around for them.
I think you need to sit down and have a long talk with her and explain to her that you are no longer her little boy for her to dress as she chooses, and that if you do go to the dinner and wear trousers this is only because you are choosing to respect the wishes of your very special mother and not because she insisted on it.