Proper attire for a funeral

**cessna152towser** · 13th January 10, 03:08 AM

I always wear a dark kilt to a funeral, either a solid black kilt or a black watch tartan.
The outfit you illustrated looks sufficiently dark to tone in with other mourners. A brightly coloured kilt would draw attention to you.

**Kilted Rogue** · 13th January 10, 07:05 AM

thank you all for the advise. I do not wish to stand out, or draw attention to my self. I had the same conversation with my wife last night, she said to wear it. I would like to have a darker jacket and black sporran, but alas i dont not own those items at the time being. A white shirt and dark tie, that i have. Gene knows me as kilt wearer, took the pot shots at a guy in kilt as any friend would. My last desire would be to disrespect the family. Thank you for the outfit advice. Now the decision

**Lyle1** · 13th January 10, 07:11 AM

I think you look appropriate. You could wear a white shirt with a black tie, but it is not mandatory. If I were to wear the black shirt with a tie, I would pick a dark tie with colors that coordinate with the burgundy/brownish colors in your kilt (sorry, the picture isn't clear). I would probably also wear a dark tie with color with a white shirt, but that's me.

However, the most important thing to consider is what the chief mourners (family) and other people attending the funeral will wear. If they are not likely to be wearing ties, I would not wear one. In many areas, people don't dress, and it does not signify a lack of respect; it is simply the local custom.

**Riverkilt** · 13th January 10, 07:14 AM

Worried about drawing attention away from the deceased when going kilted to funerals - yet every time the family of the deceased made a special effort to thank me for wearing the kilt. They took it as a sign of great respect...which it was. Course this is out here in the rezlands and canyonlands.

**McMurdo** · 13th January 10, 07:40 AM

Ron
I could not agree more. Every time I've worn a kilt to a funeral, the family has thanked me for dressing the way I did.

**dfmacliam** · 13th January 10, 08:08 AM

Sound advice... White shirt and black tie... I lost my Dad to cancer a couple years ago, so I understand how you feel about the situation.. We were able to talk to Dad about what he wanted... and we honored his wishes..

**Peregrine** · 13th January 10, 09:49 AM

Chris made an interesting point regarding how the kilt is worn in Scotland; one well worthy of consideration.

I was raised to "wear your best" to a funeral as a show of respect. (Its sad how may don't even make an attempt these days.) Based on Ron and McMurdo's experiences, I wonder if perhaps that's how the kilt is perceived here in North America. I think for most of us it is our best. I own a custom tailored kilt, not a custom tailored suit. I would certainly view the kilt that way, but as a kilt wearer my opinion is biased, and not necessarily that of the general public.

**Kilted Rogue** · 13th January 10, 10:29 AM

there are some times where i wish there was a local Scottish store. So i could drop down and get a simple black leather sporran.

**McMurdo** · 13th January 10, 10:31 AM

Originally Posted by Kilted Rogue

there are some times where i wish there was a local Scottish store. So i could drop down and get a simple black leather sporran.

Could you get it shipped from the Scottish Tartan Museum? It could be there in a day or two.

**csbdr** · 13th January 10, 10:33 AM

Condolences to your friend. As he knew you as a kilt werer, I see no problem with it. I have also noted the "stealing the show" concerns/posts with respect to weddings, and have attended several kilted. I have yet to steal the show from the bride, even in one wedding where I was an usher and right out in the thick of things. I feel that concern is understandable, but overestimated.