What to do with kilt everyone wants

[gary meakin]

“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Maya Angelou

The memories your mother has can never be taken away. She will cherish them whether she has the kilt or not. Giving it up would be the bigger thing to do and give her a feeling that no "item" could replicate.

[Slag101]

What would truly honor a Free Mason's memory would be to get it mounted in a display case, and donate it to his home lodge. In my lodge, we sometimes get a family that donates a departed brother's apron to the lodge. We then frame it, and hang it in the lodge. The exception to this, at times, is if another male family member is a brother mason, then the items are given to him. In my case, when my little guy is old enough, if he chooses to be made a mason, I will leave him all my regalia, including my kilt from my membership in the Masonic Kilties.

Obviously, if he was in the pipe band, Masonry had great significance to him. It is only right that his masonic regalia be returned to it's rightful place, his lodge, where is memory will be honored by every brother who sees it. Also, the items will be cared for with the dignity and respect a departed brother deserves. This will also put an end to all the family squabbling.

[ABG0819]

What would truly honor a Free Mason's memory would be to get it mounted in a display case, and donate it to his home lodge. In my lodge, we sometimes get a family that donates a departed brother's apron to the lodge. We then frame it, and hang it in the lodge. The exception to this, at times, is if another male family member is a brother mason, then the items are given to him. In my case, when my little guy is old enough, if he chooses to be made a mason, I will leave him all my regalia, including my kilt from my membership in the Masonic Kilties.

Obviously, if he was in the pipe band, Masonry had great significance to him. It is only right that his masonic regalia be returned to it's rightful place, his lodge, where is memory will be honored by every brother who sees it. Also, the items will be cared for with the dignity and respect a departed brother deserves. This will also put an end to all the family squabbling.

Here here! It sounds like a great idea. The lodge would defiantly preserve and protect it properly and no lodge that I know of would ever deny the family a chance to come visit the item in question.

[Jaimee]

As an oldest sister of 6 who lost my dad when I was in my early 20's, I have found it a beautiful thing to make sure the younger siblings get the heirlooms. Why? Because I have the memories in my head that they were too young to experience and remember. And if it gives them a connection to the deceased, all the better. In my opinion, give it to the little sis. Your mom still got the better deal. And they can now cherish their relationship without strife. It certainly isn't worth fighting over for years. What would Grandpa say?!

[macwilkin]

What would truly honor a Free Mason's memory would be to get it mounted in a display case, and donate it to his home lodge. In my lodge, we sometimes get a family that donates a departed brother's apron to the lodge. We then frame it, and hang it in the lodge. The exception to this, at times, is if another male family member is a brother mason, then the items are given to him. In my case, when my little guy is old enough, if he chooses to be made a mason, I will leave him all my regalia, including my kilt from my membership in the Masonic Kilties.

Obviously, if he was in the pipe band, Masonry had great significance to him. It is only right that his masonic regalia be returned to it's rightful place, his lodge, where is memory will be honored by every brother who sees it. Also, the items will be cared for with the dignity and respect a departed brother deserves. This will also put an end to all the family squabbling.

Surely there's a more equitable solution for the entire family. A museum might be a bit impersonal for the family to be able to share memories (it's not like they'll make special trips to a Masonic museum just to look at it).

I respectfully disagree. When I worked in NPS, we had many artifacts in our museum collection that had been donated in memory of deceased family members, and every so often, others in the family would come to view those items to share memories -- and many of them did make special trips. If anything, it was a way for that family to share their personal memories with the rest of us, given the historical value of some of the items.

T.

[gary meakin]

I'd have to agree with the Masonry ideas

[BoldHighlander]

Like other, family has been involved in the "infighting" for the departed's stuff. I won't go into details.

Ditto...

What would truly honor a Free Mason's memory would be to get it mounted in a display case, and donate it to his home lodge. In my lodge, we sometimes get a family that donates a departed brother's apron to the lodge. We then frame it, and hang it in the lodge. The exception to this, at times, is if another male family member is a brother mason, then the items are given to him. In my case, when my little guy is old enough, if he chooses to be made a mason, I will leave him all my regalia, including my kilt from my membership in the Masonic Kilties.

Obviously, if he was in the pipe band, Masonry had great significance to him. It is only right that his masonic regalia be returned to it's rightful place, his lodge, where is memory will be honored by every brother who sees it. Also, the items will be cared for with the dignity and respect a departed brother deserves. This will also put an end to all the family squabbling.

Bravo!!!

I really think this is the best solution of all (& most honorable to your grandfather's memory)!

[WClarkB]

You know, I'm going to chime in again here to say something that's been sticking in my craw since I first read this.

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I'm sorry, but I say "phooey" on that. That's merely an excuse for one person to have more of a claim to a family heirloom than others, based on some sort of silly seniority system. It automatically makes the older siblings more worthy of taking whatever they want, simply because they were there first and had more memories of it.

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Amen and amen!
But after all, those that survive are the only "heirlooms" that matter. In a similar situation, I made the point that MY goal was to ensure that my sibs were happy with the division whatever they did. I would have rather more difficulty replacing my twin brother and older sister than I would a teacup.

To return to the matter in hand, it is a favorite subject of mathematicians. The USUAL solution is that if no equal division can be identified then he who gets the most buys something to even out the division for the others. The "senior" gets his division and the junior the consolation of an inhanced return.

[Riverkilt]

Raffle it off within the family. Sell the raffle chances dear enough that the proceeds can be used to buy each of the sisters a matching tartan skirt.

[Frank McGrath]

cut it up into squares and put the tartan in shadowboxes containing other memoribilia and give them out at the nest family gathering. Then run like hell.