Fighting objections from the wife

[flyingshamrock]

People remarry all the time.

Hilarious!!! ... Even if it wasn't apart of my heritage, my wife finds it extremely sexy when I don the kilt. Like the rabble has explained, you walk taller, much more confident, nothing can stop you! Plus my wife loves the attention so that helps too... Eventually she'll warm up to it if she knows how important it is to you. Just don't force it on her to much. Moderation is key.

[Pleater]

Don't fight - that never solves anything in a family situation and doesn't do a lot out of it.

Just be more fun in a kilt than in other attire.

When non kilted at an event if your wife is bored find a reason to stay a little longer, or vice versa - just glance at your watch three or four times and accompany the last two with a sigh, then suggest you leave. You don't actually have to leave early, just make it plain it was a chore.

Just be subtle.

Anne the Pleater :ootd:

[Mickey]

People remarry all the time.

LOL!

Really though, start out slow. A trip to the grocery store, a lunch, go to a movie, stuff like that. The odds are in your favor that she will quickly start warming to the look. And if she doesn't.... well.. as LitTrog said....

[warrior]

I know I am extremely fortunate to have my lovely bride. She pretty much allows me to do as I please in matters like this. She thinks I am nuts of course but it must amuse her because she appears to get a good laugh out of it.
I did get one very surprising concession from her yesterday. Since I plan on wearing the kilt daily at work and she accompanies me at least once a week I broached the subject of highland wear for her. She is in full agreement and opted for tartan breeks for herself. So now I have more items to order.

[artificer]

"It's easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to get permission" - Grace Hopper

Make your kilt.

Wear it around the house or yard.

Let her get used to the idea.

My wife didn't quite get it at first, and still isn't a huge fan of me wearing it around town (what will the other parents think!?! - to which my answer is invariably "Stuff the other parents") but she does like to see me in the kilt dressed up.

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[sailortats]

AHH, the blessings of a single life. My dog Abby has never once objected to my wear the kilt. She is even anxious to go walking with me when I am kilted.

[ForresterModern]

Whenever I kilt up I get asked the same question---What is the special occasion?--by my beloved, as she believes that I should only wear the kilt when there is a specific scottish/celtic reason to wear it---namely a games, a kilt night, or other scottish specific gathering. She is not fond of me wearing the kilt, and does not think it at all masculine, jokes regulalry about it being a skirt (although this is diminishing), and actually says out loud that it turns her OFF from a sexual interest standpoint. On top of that we regulalry battle about my desiring to wear a kilt to significant events where she would be expected to accompany me, rolling her eyes and sighing as if her attending by my kilted side has now become more of a chore than a pleasure, simply because I chose to attend kilted.
We met, dated several years, were married three years and were having our first child together before I was bitten by the bug more than 4 years ago, and she openly says that if she had known I was going to start wearing kilts (sometimes she says skirts) that she would never have married me. Not an ideal situation to be in for one who desires to maintain a happy marriage yet still wear the kilt when he feels the urge. There have been a couple occasions where she has threatened not to attend an event with me if I went kilted, to which I said I would then attend the events alone and kilted, which eventually prompted a reluctant change of heart, but not attitude.

Oh well, for some it is easier than others. Best of luck, and realize that you are not alone and are in good company. I have no suggestions to give you, as only you can know your spouse's particular situation and feelings and how best to approach the issue with her. Many of the above stated ideas may work for some, not for others, and frankly backfire for a few. I can only suggest trial and error, patience, kindness and consideration, and ask for the same from your spouse.

jeff

[sydnie7]

I was the one who got Bob kilted, so he's never had this issue. But I can understand a woman wondering what the heck is happening when her husband announces he wants to start wearing skirts (c'mon, that's at least the perception if not the reality).

The XKilt is great for some folks, but maybe not the best start in these situations. Some of the other threads that AlanH has so kindly searched up have pointed out that the LESS the kilt looks like a modern woman's skirt, the better off you may be. Tartan, lots of swoosh to go with the swagger, a sporran that doesn't look like a fanny pack all set the ensemble off.

Anyway, best of luck and be sure to read those other threads, there's lots of good advice. But in the end, in your situation, it really is just a piece of clothing and you have to ask yourself which is more important, the kilt or your relationship. Alan has some strong views on that (wow, what a surprise LOL) but you have to find your own path.

P.S. Men are notoriously hard to shop for (birthdays etc.). One of the great advantages of a kilted husband is that there is always something he wants to add to the kit!

[Mark Stephenson]

Forgive me if I missed it, but did you mention whether or not you are of Scottish heritage? If so, that heritage might be a useful angle (although it has not worked for Jeff). Still, I would think that by starting out attending events where others are kilted might be useful. There are a couple of Highland games in Michigan that draw very, very large crouwds. They are a lot of fun, whether or not you are kilted. Try going to some of these (either kilted or unkilted), and just have a good time. This might open some doors. If you are of Scottish heritage, try showing your wife some of the threads here that have photos of men with their kids. Good luck.

[sevenoaks]

I feel for your dilemma. I am lucky in that my Wee Lass has never had a problem with me wearing a kilt, in fact she encourages it. I now wear it every night after work, it feels so comfortable and almost all the time if we go out. She loves it when other women remark on the kilt and she says it makes her fell special that I chose her to be my life partner. I can not think of a time I have gone out kilted where I did not get a nice comment from a woman. It dose make one walk taller, more confident and more eager to face life.
I wish you well in your quest for approval from her however at the end of the day it is more important to build a loving and trusting relationship together. A kilt is after all just a piece of clothing, albeit the most comfortable piece of clothing that any man could wear.

Good luck my friend.