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[bubba]

Hmmmm. Maybe start leaving pictures of Sir Sean Connery in his kilt, Black Watch soldiers and pics of kaber tossers at Highland Games laying around the house..........

[Raphael]

My Wife is French-Canadian from a small town in Northern Ontario and when I first spoke of the Idea of getting a kilt, she had no objection to it at all. In fact, As Long as it is a kilt and not a skirt, she doesn't care.

I have kilted in front of her friends lots of time, and she had yet to ask me to stop.

Seriously, most people know that Kilts are for men, so it wouldn't be problem. But they can only relate kilt wearing to special occasions. But I think every day is a special occasion.

[bubba]

But they can only relate kilt wearing to special occasions. But I think every day is a special occasion.

Any day I wake up still breathing is a special occasion.

[Daneel]

I agree with Bubba, but the day becomes extra special and in some strange way I take charge of my future when I put on the kilt.

[RockyR]

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[Blu (Ontario)]

... Anyhow we all know our wives, and what works for one man's wife may or may not work on another...

This is very true. However... whatever the process..., at some point, they must be made to realize that the issue is not going to go away simply by them acting negatively. They must be made to realize that submission on certain issues is just not an option. Women went through the same deal with pants/trousers in the '60s/'70s. I presume she doesn't see women in pants = butch! It is so important to be just as strong on the homefront as outside the home. If we are not, their respect for us and our own self respect is diminished.

... Like I said I am slowly trying to condition her, but then when the emotional trigger gets tripped, It won't matter how much preconditioning has been done, so I have to remove all "emotional" objections.. "Trigger Trippers" It takes time... Any Ideas you have on doing that is very much appreciated....

I hope this doesn't mean that you have to post here in secret.

Doing things in secret could backlash on you if she finds out from someone else. As much as we may "worship" our wives, we tend to let their "emotional triggers" control us. ( Most wives use this from time to time because it works.... or we let it work.) You may ultimately find that a "wham" between the eyes... "get it all over with at once" approach may be the better way to go with this. Ultimately, she will have have to respect your decision whether she agrees with it or not. You are, after all, a man standing steadfastly and undeterred by her emotional manipulation. At the same time, it must be done with love, understanding and lots of reassurance as well as determination.

Good luck with this.

blu

[Graham]

I'm here, actually trying to get some work done so I can only reply briefly.

I can relate to all you're saying, my wife is now becoming more receptive that yours appears to be.

My concern is her respect for you, I know my wife HATES FAT, so I made a huge effort 2 years ago to loose 20 kgs, for my health and to please her.
We have an obligation to do so. But she has a Biblical obligation to respect you also.

Maybe the way she sees you needs to be discussed.
Maybe you could work on loosing wieght - if that is an issue for her.

My wife once suffered from anorexia before we met, in her mind wieght is still an issue.

On the kilt side of the matter:

Be patient, even in Biblical understanding, we are all at differing places. Loving kilts is something of a personal revelation not dissimilar to spiritual revelation.
She is not at the same place of understanding that you are.

be consistant, when she sees you are serious about kilts, happier, more comfortable and that (hopefully) your friends and those around you give you compliments.....that may sway her mind a bit.

Try to interest and involve her in celtic events, movies, buy her a pleated kilt-skirt if she wants one.
(if it interests you also) involve her in celtic music, outings, maybe take up Scottish Country Dancing (we did), and other places where other men will also be in kilts.

Must dash, hope it works out for you brother!

[Blu (Ontario)]

...I want to preface this post by saying I have the most wonderful Godly Christian wife in the world. The very best. And I Love her so dearly. She is my Queen, my life, my Joy. So as you read, this keep that in mind....JohnAllen..

I'm sure that many of us, me included, share an equally loving bond with our own spouse. However, Love is a two way steet. Love is mutual respect and a sharing in the joys of life experiences. Avoidance of emotional triggers may keep the peace but is not an expression of love. It only results in yourself being miserable. At some point a compromise based on love and mutual respect is the only solution. I admire your spousal devotion. I hope she feels the same for you throughout the resolution of this issue.

[Canuck]

Graham has said something here that I think might help your situation. It will also be something you can do together. This is a big plus for most relationships. Scotish Country Dancing is a great ice breaker. Here you will be around other men who wear kilts as it were an everyday thing and their spouses, make no big deal about it,... only to comment on the tartan or lack of (which is sometimes the case when I wear a contemporary kilt).
By keeping it a secret, in my opinion, is giving it a "Closet" conotation and methinks that is not what you would like your wife to think about you. Enough of the angst, life is too short...believe in yourself....acknowledge your wife...do something special together... if it's in a kilt all the better. Check the obituaries if your not listed, go out and enjoy the day.
Cheers
Robert

[Blu (Ontario)]

...do something special together... if it's in a kilt all the better. Check the obituaries if your not listed, go out and enjoy the day. Cheers
Robert

Not always easy but something we should try to do more often.... Great advice!