Black Tie with Kilt Etiquette - Ladies edition

[Katia]

But sometimes women *want* to be able to wear tartan. Perhaps we like it, perhaps we want to represent family, perhaps we don't want to show up to a Scottish-themed event with nary a Scottish representation in our attire.

There is a difference between "you don't have to" do something, and "you should not/may not" do something. Often the two are conflated.