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    Quote Originally Posted by Dreadbelly
    Men are expected to shave off their gender and age identifying characteristics, their facial hair. Expected to dress and behave a certain way. Men are belittled and put down for being men, men who stand out and DO THEIR OWN THING. A woman is expected, hell, required to flaunt her gender in this world to make something of her self... But men must make themselves fit in to a cookie cutter mold. Off goes the beard. Hair must be clipped short. Don't stand out. Don't be different. Be a cog or a gear in the machine just like everybody else. Wear your uniform and fit in or you WILL be punished.

    Some men don't have what it takes to deal with this sort of pressure.
    hey Dread, check out this picture (hope it works): http://www.btinternet.com/~prosearch/tomswebpow2.jpg

    Best version, only one I could find right now. They're all cookie cutter in uniform. Look at their faces. See the fight. They're all POWs behind German lines. You know the Germans are standing well back and nowhere near them when the lights go out. Remember, it's what's inside that counts, you're always going to be outnumbered, outgunned: then what?

    Some people are going to need help with this, we should be there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shay
    I've noticed recently there's been some women joining, (hello, sistahs!) and more men talking about their significant others' reactions to, support for, or denigration of, the kilt.

    Maybe we could have a forum for that sort of discussion and call it, "So He Wants to Wear the Kilt," for folks to come and ask questions without feeling like they're intruding on the rest of the community with their questions.

    Just a thought.

    (And also for bosses, friends, parents, kids, etc to post questions or concerns- not just for spouses or partners.)

    I'm just thinking if there was a place that could host a kilt answer board with a dazzling breadth and depth of knowledge, this is it!
    I am sure this isn't your intent but I suddenly got this image of a kilt support group. LOL

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    Dreadbelly is offline Membership Revoked for repeated rule violations.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KiltedBishop
    I am sure this isn't your intent but I suddenly got this image of a kilt support group. LOL
    Wearing a kilt is sort of the opposite of support. It's uh, more about letting stuff dangle.

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    LOL a dangle group??? interesting thought.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Colin
    Yeah, but maybe those of us whose wives have never had a problem with us wearing a kilt can help answer some of the insecurities that non supportive wives are feeling. I still think it's a good idea, and holds no comparison to the rubbish at Tom's (anyone still visit or post there despite the complaints?).
    I still visit Toms once in a while. I was a member there before I joined this forum. But as an indication of what I think about the two forums, compare my post totals, less than 50 at Tom's and nearly 600 here.
    "A day spent in the fields and woods, or on the water should not count as a day off our allotted number upon this earth."
    Jerry, Kilted Old Fart.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shay
    Meow, yarr...

    Actually, I believe I did include all significant others in my original staement- a category which I think also includes spuoses of any sex, mothers, fathers, employers, or anyone who's really significant in a kilt-wearer's life- in no way do I want a 'ladies-only' forum. (For starters, I'd be disqualified for cursing and wearing boots!)

    Bear- I edited my original post to more accurately reflect the idea I had- thanks for showing me where I wasn' presenting myself correctly.
    Hey, Shay, my wife has no problems with the kilts. The one who gives me the hassle is my 24 year old daughter who calls my kilts "her dads skirts". Of course if it starts to really bother me I can always have a nice father daughter chat about what to call a man's kilt and what it atually would cost her to finish getting her Masters Degree on her own.
    "A day spent in the fields and woods, or on the water should not count as a day off our allotted number upon this earth."
    Jerry, Kilted Old Fart.

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    Just a few thoughts....

    - If the mods want to set up a section of this forum where signifigant others of kilt wearers can talk, that's fine and dandy... but...

    - I don't really see what's keeping them from contributing to the various other forum areas of this site as it is...

    - If anyone is worried about having their spouses read their posts they need to consider two things: 1. Nothing at all is keeping your spouse from reading anything you post on this site as it is, and 2. Why are you making statements in a public forum that you would not want your spouse to read in the first place?

    - Laslty, my own thought is that this would seem to indicate that having a kilt wearer in your life is something that one needs a "support group" for. This presupposes that the kilt is somehow negative. Think about it. We have support groups for the friends and families of alcoholics, drug addicts, cancer patients, that sort of thing. Not exactly happy, joyous circumstances. Wearing the kilt is not a condition that one has to cope with. Nor is in an "alternative lifestyle choice" like some people want to paint it out to be.

    It's just a kilt, guys. Normal people wear kilts. Let's not forget that.

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    Matt

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    A tip o'the hat to Matt. Thank you sir you said it much better than I had planned by the time I got to the end of this thread.

    The only other thing I was going to suggest was perhaps a "get a set" forum for some of the more browbeaten guys.

    Mike

    P.S. Should anyone fail to see the sarcasm in that statement and choose to berate me for it...don't bother it would be like trying to teach a pig to sing. Wastes your time and irritates the pig.
    Last edited by Mike n NC; 6th October 05 at 05:27 AM.

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    I think some of us are not understanding the intent of what was suggested. The term "support group" has slipped in somewhere and is inaccurate.

    Some take it for granted that their spouse easily understands and accepts your kilts. Just wearing a kilt does not solve a person not liking your kilt. The wife isn't going AND the kilts aren't going. But as long as she has an issue with the kilt there will be this "elephant in the room" whether we talk about it or not.

    I've read suggestions of "take her to Highland Games" and "do things with other people who wear kilts.". (Couldn't this be seen as a support group?) This is all great but my wife has little desire to do this. She will never be around people who wear kilts to get to talk to them so the best that could be hoped for is an easy place for her to read an article or a couple of posts about a wife who came to appreciate the kilt. Maybe not love it but appreciate it. She will not search the forum to find a few posts about this but if she could go right to an essay or something it could possibly help her put aside her issue (I still haven't figured it out, 9 months and 3 kilts later)

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    Quote Originally Posted by cavscout
    She will never be around people who wear kilts to get to talk to them so the best that could be hoped for is an easy place for her to read an article or a couple of posts about a wife who came to appreciate the kilt. Maybe not love it but appreciate it. She will not search the forum to find a few posts about this but if she could go right to an essay or something it could possibly help her put aside her issue
    I agree. Maybe we could just have a heavily moderated forum that allows no responses and is dedicated to those types of essays. It could be split into two sub-forums, a "Why I wear...", and a "Why I appreciate...."

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