hey need some advice.

[Julie]

Andrew,it always takes courage to do something that no one else seems to be doing. When you wear your kilt you are always going to attract attention, such is the allure of the kilt. I think what you have got to realise is that some people would never wear the kilt, it would be a funny world if we all did the same thing. Its possible that the people who want to pass derogatory comments about you in your kilt could well be that type of individuals that do not see the kilt as manly attire.Even in Scotland we have individuals who love to poke fun at kilt wearers, it goes with the territory.

I think what you have to keep in mind is that the kilt is a superb dress for a male, everyone who wears it looks good and the admirers greatly outnumber the detractors. Another view is that the ones who criticise kilt wearers are really closet kilties but do not have the guts to wear it, they know that you look great and sexy in your kilt and they would love to be in your position.

So don't be discouraged, keep on wearing your kilt at school and elsewhere, it will soon become second nature to you and you will become immune to any negative remarks.
Julian

[RockyR]

I think a lot of good advice is given here, but we all have to remember... we're not dealing with "grown up" logic... these are high school kids trying to get a rise out of him.

Some retorts to the single word comment "F@gg0T":
"No, I'm not a F@gg0t, I'm just expressing my culture. What? Are you ASHAMED of YOUR culture?"

"You DO know the 'style' of wearing baggy clothes came from prison uniforms that didn't fit, right? So you're heros are rapists and child molestors... THAT's cool (said with extreme sarcasm)."

(to someone who screamed it from a group) "I'm not the one trying to impress a bunch of guys, now am I?"

(to someone who screamed it from a group) "I'm not the one hanging out with a bunch of guys..."

"Actually, your mom/girlfriend thinks I'm hot" or "that's not what your mom/girlfriend said"

While the last one is juvenile, it is a deeply cutting insult to some.

The BEST advice is to continue walking or just give them an evil grin and ignore them.

I also agree with Steve... the BEST way to shut them up is to be a lady's man. The kilt will DEFINITELY give you an edge in this department, so USE IT!

[Bill]

Hi Andrew and WELCOME!

Much good wisdom has been given here I hope you found it helpful. To this I would add --Be sure you are properly kited out, wear a sporran as it does make the kult connection in the eyes of the uninformed. If you don't have one may I recommend the nylon cargo sporran at www.stillwaterkilts.com it is an extremely servicable item that won't break the bank. For more dressedup times look to a leather one. There's lots of good information on how to wear the kilt within the forum do take time and browse.

About the bully the purest form of insult a individual like that can recieve is to ignore him! Don't give him the time of day that will deflate him quicker that any thing you could say. One more thing: I've heard it said and I think it's good advice "Never start a fight, but be sure you finish it.

Andrew the best assesory to the kilt is standing tall and being confident. I think you'll do well.

Bill

[Captain]

I would almost agree with the others in this post... Just be proud of who you are and let the bully talk his trash... If he doesn't intimidate you and get you to change your behavior, he knows he can't bully you and will move on to weaker prey. Of course, being a bully, you shouldn't have too much trouble with him now that you've broken his nose. Exude strength and confidence and bullies will pass on by, even if you decide to wear a pink tutu to class.

Besides, I have learned one very important lesson in life... if you really think about it, there is less and less to be violent about than one might first think. Don't get me wrong... If some one is hurting my family, especially my wife or our soon to be born child... I will react with extreme prejudice and deadly force... But that's about the only thing to get me to fight:

You want my car? Sure... it's insured. You want my wallet? Okay, I don't carry cash and I can cancel those credit/debit cards in about 5 minutes... You want to push my wife around? I hope you can hold your intestines in while the EMT's rush you to the hospital...

Words can hurt, but only if you care about the person's opinion... If you don't think the guys a moron... let him talk, it's not going to hurt you.

[turpin]

Folks, if you look at the first post you'll notice it is over 2 months old and andrew hasn't ever posted again. I think he's left the building.