No kilt at the wedding, or some people still don't get it

**RCallan** · 1st April 07, 01:03 PM

Wear your kilt to the rehuirsal dinner?

**mcvarmit** · 1st April 07, 02:10 PM

i agree with Mr. Caradoc, it ain't about you.

semper fi

slick

**Panache** · 1st April 07, 04:33 PM

arrogcow (or may I just say Adam),

Wear a kilt to the dress rehearsal dinner and bachelor party.

But as a groomsman, you are there as a trusted and dear friend to the groom.

Your job is to make sure that your friend and his bride have a wonderful day to remember. The groomsmen and bridesmaid should be first on the dancefloor, first in toasting the health of the newly married couple, first in creating an atmosphere of merriment and joy. The day is your friends and unless you have his (and the bride's blessing) I would wear what they ask you to wear. A kilted man in full formal regalia is quite a sight! I was rather amazed the first time I went to a Scottish Country Dance and saw how the ladies outfits faded into the background compared to the glorious men in their kilted outfits. The day is theirs not yours. If I was just attending a wedding I would go in a kilted outfit. If I was in a wedding I would ask my friend what they would be most happy for me to wear. A small gesture, but a priceless gift in terms of loyalty and friendship.

Cheers

Jamie

**mcvarmit** · 2nd April 07, 06:50 AM

mr. caradoc,
once again i find myself agreeing with you, i'm on my 2nd marriage, managed to totally piss off the 1st one, keep HER happy on HER wedding day.

semper fi

slick

**arrogcow** · 2nd April 07, 07:00 AM

Wow, when I posted this, I really didn't expect to get slammed. I was mearly pointing out the irony that a fairly regular kilt wearer, with at least 2 (and maybe as many as 4) kilt wearers for groom dudes was getting married in pants.

I've just always expected this guy to be my one shot at being kilted "in" a wedding (I didn't get to wear a kilt for mine due to various reasons - and I'm happily married for 10 years on the 12th). I know it's all about her (I learned that quick. The proper response to anything wedding related is, "Yes, dear).

I have every intention of going to the wedding. I will be kilted at the bachlor party and the rehersal dinner. After the reception (afternoon), many people are going to Dave & Busters, and I'll be kilted there. However at the wedding and reception I'll be there in pink taffata with a bow on the butt if that's what the bride wants (Man I hope that isn't what she wants).

Give me a little credit, and possibly a little simpathy that I have to wear pants.

Adam

**Streetcar** · 2nd April 07, 08:49 AM

Originally Posted by arrogcow

Give me a little credit, and possibly a little simpathy that I have to wear pants.

Adam

I'll do more than that. I'm expecting to be in Cinci a couple months from now, and I'd be happy to buy you a beer.
(And I wasn't intending a to slam, sorry if it came across that way...)

**arrogcow** · 2nd April 07, 08:53 AM

Please tell me your coming with the improve group.

Adam

**Streetcar** · 2nd April 07, 03:30 PM

Originally Posted by arrogcow

Please tell me your coming with the improve group.

Adam

I really wish I were, but unfortunately it is just a family visit with the inlaws.

**Caradoc** · 2nd April 07, 10:50 AM

Originally Posted by arrogcow

Wow, when I posted this, I really didn't expect to get slammed.

It wasn't my intent to "slam". Not at all.

**beowulf67** · 2nd April 07, 06:56 AM

Like others have said, it's their (HER) wedding so you should abide by their requests for what the wedding party wears.
If you want to wear the kilt to the rehersal or reception, then just ask and explain why you like to wear it. But in the end, the day is all about them.