Help with the Wife!!!!

[TheSp8]

Once you get everything together so she gets the full effect it may help. You can also set up a bit of an ambush with the connivance of some friends. Have them come over or meet somewhere when you are wearing the kilt and make sure they know to compliment the look in her hearing. Of course, you may have to stand to some kidding prior to the compliments. That is sort of how I got my parents to accept the kilt more. The kicker was when little old ladies none of us knew came up to me and complimented the kilt. Either way, slow and patient will win the day.

YMOS,
Tony

[Doc]

Telling her some of the kilts history might help. If that dosn't work show pics of Sir Connery kilted, that should do it.

[GreenDragon]

My wife kept calling it a skirt with that big grin on her face. she knows she's the only person who can make fun of me and get away with it.

[auld argonian]

Telling her some of the kilts history might help. If that dosn't work show pics of Sir Connery kilted, that should do it.

You can do that, but you'll get things like: "But you're not Sean Connery" and "Yes, but that's in Scotland...they wear those things in Scotland, not here."

[The F-H.C.A.G.]

My mother in law was very uncomfortable with Panache wearing the kilt, until we went to an event at their retirement community (a choir performance that my father in law was in). About 1/3 of the attendees came up to us (not all at once, individually) and began to compliment him and expound on their Scottish heritage and discuss clans and tartan. The other 2/3 just ignored it. Then she got many people over the following weeks complimenting her on her wonderful son. Ever since then, she just smiles when he wears it. In fact on St. Patricks day, she complimented a young man wearing a kilt, by basically saying, "Good on you! My son wears kilts too!"

Be well,

[Riverkilt]

I had a wife once, for 20 years...split almost 20 years ago. Back then, never considered kilts, but did buy her a Macdonald tartan skirt which she seldom wore. Think she would have given me a raft full if I'd done kilts.

As a single man, I can assure you that there are many lovely ladies who enjoy kilted men and support them. Divorcing over a kilt would be extreme problem solving...but it remains an option for both.

Suggestions that may or may not help - depending on if she's dug in deep over the issue. Videos with kilted men. Or see if she'll follow you through the mall walking about 20 or 30 feet back to see other's reactions to you kilted.

So sad when someone "needs" to throw a damper on what someone they love is enthusiastic about...very sad.

Ron

[Robin]

I find it hard to give any advise, I understand your frustration, but I also understand your wife. Take it easy and don't fight over it...headbutting will result in stuborn trench warfare.

I didn't had your problems, but even though my wife likes kilts it took some time and effort before she (+ family and friends) accepted it completly. Positive comments and compliments from others...mostly complete strangers...help a lot. This forum was a big support also, I got most of my knowledge from it and I showed my wife many pictures before I received my first kilt, so she knew what was in the pipeline and the result didn't came as a shock to her.

[cherokeesix]

I started another thread over in Kilt Nights about wearing the Kilt to church. She was very sceptical about it and couldn't believe I would wear it to a very traditional Lutheran church. I have no confidence problems and made that decision to wear it while performing my duties as an usher. Everyone loved it! I think after hearing all the compliments on how good it looked, she has relaxed a little bit. I'm working on the second occasion right now. I think she will come around eventually.

Cheers
Patrick

[brandycr]

Cant understand a woman not finding a man in a kilt sexy as hell but oh well.Being a woman I can say we are a stubborn lot so wouldnt push the issue to much maybe just wear it around the house maybe show her a few pics of kilted men looking sharp slow little here little there then shell come around.

[JimB]

My wife was fine with me wearing the kilt at festivals and whatnot, and in fact she encouraged me to buy my first one. She was a bit hesitant when I said I wanted to wear it to church however but after seeing the positive reactions that it got, now she is thrilled whenever I wear it.