My wife is not on board with the whole kilt thing.

[siva011]

First, I'm not sure the whole watching the movie angle is one that would work. I mean, I know lots of women who thought Capt. Kirk was masculine and all, doesn't mean they would want me to wear around that yellow star trek shirt. Not to mention the argument, "but it's just a movie and the kilt is a costume".

The argument of respect is a good one. Of course you want to respect her wishes, but that goes both ways as well. Talk with her about it, using the "me" argument and not "you". Let her know that it's something you enjoy, and that you are comfortable, and your daughter thinks well enough to get it for you. And it's also valid that you don't tell her what to wear and not to wear (I assume), ask her kindly how she would feel if you said she couldn't wear pants.

And lastly, maybe some of the advice on "going without her' can be good. Not in a mean way, but maybe go somewhere by yourself first to build your own confidence, and to prepare for what might come your way. Kilts seem to be a fabric confidence-booster for us guys, and chances are she'll notice that. That might give her a different outlook on the whole thing too...

[Packhound]

This is an issue with my wife too. I FINALLY finished constructing my first tartan kilt and I'm looking for opportunities to wear it. She rolls her eyes when I suggest wearing it out somewhere with her.

My Boy Scout troop is having a Court of Honor next Tuesday and I am planning to wear it then (with her in attendance). I showed it off briefly at last nights meeting to get some response from the boys and other leaders. It seems to be a non-issue with the boys (I have told them about the Scottish connection to the Boy Scouts previously.) One of the adults (also a childhood friend) made a brief comment about my "skirt" in fun. But, all-in-all the response was positive and they see no problem with me being slightly out of uniform next week while wearing the kilt.

I hope that this experience will warm her up to going out in public with me in the kilt.

Rob

[Master K9]

The Thrifty Kilt was an entry level kilt for me....to see if it would take.

She has no idea about kilt construction, quality...et al, etc...it's just the thought of a man wearing a skirt sort of thing to her.

I did wear it to a clients office and the bank this morning...with a blue polo, black tam and black shoes.

[Aggie]

My wife had a similar attitude. It boils down to exposure. The more you wear it around her the sooner she will become accustomed if not accepting. The attitude begins to change a little when she's with you while other people compliment you. She's unsure how others will react. The only cure is experience.

[thistlelass]

Has she seen you walking? Has she stood behind you and watched you walk? Absolutely nothing nicer to see than the swing of those pleats!!!
I can't imagine not liking to see a guy in a kilt-maybe that's just me, but I don't think so! I would hope she changes her mind on this one. Start wearing it around the house all the time-wear it everywhere! A kilt is not a skirt, never has been, never will be!

[CDNSushi]

A kilt is not a skirt, never has been, never will be!

Well, actually it IS, (arguing semantics here) but that doesn't make it a woman's garment. A kilt is no more womens' wear than a jock strap is. Well, actually, let me rephrase that. (not quite right either). A kilt is no more womens' wear than a pair of blue jeans. Either gender can wear them but there tends to be a world of difference in style, fit and overall look.

It's more the notion that skirts have become womens' wear and made to be worn exclusively by women in the eyes of modern, Western societies even though throughout history and even in the 21st century, there are all sorts of people in different countries who didn't receive that memo. Just ask the Sri Lankans, for instance.

Aside from my kilts, I also wear sarongs for style and comfort. Sir Arthur C. Clarke was a pretty big fan of wearing them too. But like all sensible people, I have a varied wardrobe that also includes shorts, and pants of various sorts. Sometimes situation and common sense requires me to choose one piece of clothing over another, but then again, if it were socially acceptable, I'd probably choose to wear nothing at all -- especially during the hot, humid summers here.

[Master K9]

When I dressed to go out this morning she didn't say any thing.

[Alan H]

Has she seen you walking? Has she stood behind you and watched you walk? Absolutely nothing nicer to see than the swing of those pleats!!!
I can't imagine not liking to see a guy in a kilt-maybe that's just me, but I don't think so! I would hope she changes her mind on this one. Start wearing it around the house all the time-wear it everywhere! A kilt is not a skirt, never has been, never will be!

Not to knock the product, because the Stillwater Thrifty Kilt has it's place and Lord knows Jerry has gotten a lot of guys into kilts that wouldn't have otherwise, but the
thrifty doesn't have a lot of pleats and they're pretty shallow. I doubt it has a whole lot of "swish".

[Alan H]

When I dressed to go out this morning she didn't say any thing.

Great! Progress is progress.

Make sure she knows you love her, eh? Do something nice for her today. It doesn't have to be a huge thing, just something so she knows.

[BEEDEE]

Problem is my dewey eyed bride will not entertain the notion that anything but trousers should be worn by men. Anything resembling a skirt is reserved for women. No amount of education by my part has yet to change her mind.

Does she ever wear slacks or jeans? If she does, then she has a very weak case.

Brian