first time out kilted / almost get evicted for it

[sathor]

Its really too bad how your mom feels, I totally agree with Alan H. As far as how my folks feel about the kilt..My dad has requested I make him one.

When I talked to my grandparents on my (deceased) dad's side, they said that they think there was at least a few times that he likely wanted or tried to get a kilt, which helps solidify the hypothesis that my mom hates that I am like my dad.

[RamsayClanCommish]

Forgive my bluntness...but her comments, to my mind, show not her disdain for the kilt but more for you. The kilt is a noble and stylish garment and I think she is just using it as an excuse to heap abuse on you. My advice is to tell mother to sell her line of crap elsewhere and stand up for yourself. Tell her that you will be damned if you allow her grandson to witness a complete lack of respect and dignity shown to his father. Tell her that her insulting behavior and bigoted slurs just show her grandson how truly ignorant she is and you wont have him brought up in a enviroment of intolerance and stupidity. She wants to evict you? fight her. She wants to fire you for being proud of your kilt? Quit and tell her to find a new whipping boy.

She sounds like a lonely and bitter woman and as hard as it sounds, she needs to be left alone so as not to poison you or your son. What is more shameful..your kilt and pride or her bile spewing diatribes and lack of respect?

[morrison]

Sometimes mothers speak to a person thinking that because it's her offspring there will be a life growth lesson being learned. Of course, as the offspring matures the mother doesn't. Fortunately, for the younger maturing offspring the growth can occasionally be positive and profitable emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physiologically and psychologically in spite of the Mother's interference.

[sathor]

adding to the fun, she called late last night and said she was going to skip her grandson's 4th Birthday party.

She showed up, then left for gatlenburg soon after. I hope her car breaks down in front of a Kilt convention.

[Freedomlover]

Issues aplenty. It sounds like it is past time to get on with life in a more favorable setting.

[sathor]

It makes me miss living in Ann Arbor. Even with game day traffic.

[cessna152towser]

The woman does sound a bit crazy, be grateful its not your wife reacting in this bizarre manner. However she is your mum and the house you live in is your grandma's so you may need to consider whether it is worth letting your mum continue to control how you dress now that you are a grown up or whether you are able to support yourself, find another house, and dress as you feel comfortable.

[sathor]

The woman does sound a bit crazy, be grateful its not your wife reacting in this bizarre manner. However she is your mum and the house you live in is your grandma's so you may need to consider whether it is worth letting your mum continue to control how you dress now that you are a grown up or whether you are able to support yourself, find another house, and dress as you feel comfortable.

A lost a job just after 9/11 and we never really fully recovered financially. Though been stabbed in the back a few times, and thats how we wound up here. Twice in the last year we came real close to getting our own place. Recently, we tried to get a bank loan, for a 30K house, with 50% down, and no luck. We make too much money for the programs that help 'underprivileged' families, but not enough to get anywhere. I am a stay at home dad, partly because it would cost almost as much as my wife makes teaching to pay for 2 daycare bills.

[randal]

My heart goes out to you and your family for the circumstances you find yourself in. It seems to me that the kilt was not the reason for the outburst, just the excuse. There may be more to her behaviour than meets the eye. It's easier said than done but, patience and love may be all you can offer her. Good luck to you and enjoy the peace you have when you are in it.

[staticsan]

Sometimes mothers speak to a person thinking that because it's her offspring there will be a life growth lesson being learned. Of course, as the offspring matures the mother doesn't. Fortunately, for the younger maturing offspring the growth can occasionally be positive and profitable emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physiologically and psychologically in spite of the Mother's interference.

+5, Insightful.

Whilst I don't have these issues with my parents, I have issues along those lines with some other relatives, including my wife and her mother. I can definitely identify with your words.

Wade.