first time out kilted / almost get evicted for it

[Coinneach]

Somebody once said, and I paraphrase, nobody will hurt you more than your own family.

That being said, you're well aware of your mother's reactions. I don't think I'd stop wearing the kilt; you're an adult, you can make those decisions for yourself. I think the key might be to, as best as you can, not give her rants a lot of reciprocal drama.

After all, as you experienced, other people...strangers, even...love the kilt! That has to count for something.

[RamsayClanCommish]

Forgive my bluntness...but her comments, to my mind, show not her disdain for the kilt but more for you. The kilt is a noble and stylish garment and I think she is just using it as an excuse to heap abuse on you. My advice is to tell mother to sell her line of crap elsewhere and stand up for yourself. Tell her that you will be damned if you allow her grandson to witness a complete lack of respect and dignity shown to his father. Tell her that her insulting behavior and bigoted slurs just show her grandson how truly ignorant she is and you wont have him brought up in a enviroment of intolerance and stupidity. She wants to evict you? fight her. She wants to fire you for being proud of your kilt? Quit and tell her to find a new whipping boy.

She sounds like a lonely and bitter woman and as hard as it sounds, she needs to be left alone so as not to poison you or your son. What is more shameful..your kilt and pride or her bile spewing diatribes and lack of respect?

[morrison]

Sometimes mothers speak to a person thinking that because it's her offspring there will be a life growth lesson being learned. Of course, as the offspring matures the mother doesn't. Fortunately, for the younger maturing offspring the growth can occasionally be positive and profitable emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physiologically and psychologically in spite of the Mother's interference.

[staticsan]

Sometimes mothers speak to a person thinking that because it's her offspring there will be a life growth lesson being learned. Of course, as the offspring matures the mother doesn't. Fortunately, for the younger maturing offspring the growth can occasionally be positive and profitable emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physiologically and psychologically in spite of the Mother's interference.

+5, Insightful.

Whilst I don't have these issues with my parents, I have issues along those lines with some other relatives, including my wife and her mother. I can definitely identify with your words.

Wade.

[Carolina Kiltman]

First of all, I want to say that my prayers are with you always. I am sure that your Mother has issues that are far beyond the kilt, it is just a peg to hang them on.

A couple of suggestions, and I am sure you probably have covered them, but here goes: (I know how easy it is to overlook the obvious at times.)

Getting out of the family owned house is very important. Is there a State Employees' Credit Union in Ohio? If your wife is a Public School teacher, then she would most likely be eligible for housing loan from them.

Secondly, with the housing market meltdown, perhaps you could get an owner financed house? Seems that if you have that much saved up for a down payment it might work. Just don't over-extend yourself, and remember, there are always things that break and need repair around a house. (I'm sure you are aware of that also.)

May the situation resolve itself soon.

Frank

[sathor]

adding to the fun, she called late last night and said she was going to skip her grandson's 4th Birthday party.

She showed up, then left for gatlenburg soon after. I hope her car breaks down in front of a Kilt convention.

[Mipi]

I hope her car breaks down in front of a Kilt convention.

I do understand you and fully support you. But you shouldn't wish bad things to anybody (not even to your foe). Sometimes the bad wishes can hit you as a boomerang.

You just have to wait in peace. My belief is that everyone has to pay for bad thing (as they're saying in the East --> karma).

Be well and keep calm. Everything will be fine.

[sathor]

I do understand you and fully support you. But you shouldn't wish bad things to anybody (not even to your foe). Sometimes the bad wishes can hit you as a boomerang.

You just have to wait in peace. My belief is that everyone has to pay for bad thing (as they're saying in the East --> karma).

Be well and keep calm. Everything will be fine.

Granted, I am just wanted said karma to take effect sooner rather than later.

[Freedomlover]

Issues aplenty. It sounds like it is past time to get on with life in a more favorable setting.

[sathor]

It makes me miss living in Ann Arbor. Even with game day traffic.