My wife scoffs...

[Cowher]

My wife saw my in my first kilt (SK) and was nice about it but I knew she was not impressed. I thought at that point she would never be into it. I received a double box pleat wool kilt and I put together a nice day wear look with it. Well she didn't say much the first time I wore it. But we had a "date night" the other day and asked if I was going to wear my kilt I laughed and said no. She asked why not? She wanted me to wear it. Well we were going into the city and I wasn't having a good day so decided to skip the kilt just in case some jerk made a comment. We got home and she said 'ya know I really like your new kilt you shoulda wore it'.
Maybe you need to wear it a bit and it will grow on her.

[Gryphon noir]

I suspect that the claim is true: 97% of women prefer a man in a kilt.
So surprised that there should be so many wives/ partners of kilties that are ambivalent {or worse} that I thought I'd check again just in case I missed something.
"I LOVE your kilts! I love to see you wearing them!" {thanks, Honey}

Last time we attended a vegetarian dine-out I spent half the time fielding questions about kilts and tartans. Two women in the group said they thought I was seriously hot in a kilt. At my age, having 30-somethings saying such things just shouldn't be dismissed out of hand!

[Tobus]

I suspect that the claim is true: 97% of women prefer a man in a kilt.
So surprised that there should be so many wives/ partners of kilties that are ambivalent {or worse} that I thought I'd check again just in case I missed something.

I suspect that many of the wives (or girlfriends) who don't want their man to wear a kilt are not saying this because they dislike kilts. Indeed, I'll bet that they really do like a man in a kilt. But they are intimidated by the idea of being in public with a kilted man because he will be pointed at and possibly laughed at by the rude, insensitive jerks out there. So it's not that she doesn't like the kilt, it's that she is terrified of being publicly attached to someone who is different than everybody else.

A good way to get past that is to take her to a Highland Games or other event where kilts are the norm. Let her get used to being "out and about" with a kilted man in a safe environment. And go from there, with the idea of transitioning to being kilted in normal everyday life. Her apprehensions will dissipate with more exposure, as she gets used to the idea.

[Spartan Tartan]

I suspect that many of the wives (or girlfriends) who don't want their man to wear a kilt are not saying this because they dislike kilts. Indeed, I'll bet that they really do like a man in a kilt. But they are intimidated by the idea of being in public with a kilted man because he will be pointed at and possibly laughed at by the rude, insensitive jerks out there. So it's not that she doesn't like the kilt, it's that she is terrified of being publicly attached to someone who is different than everybody else.

This is an interesting perspective...and a good point.

[swampfox]

i agree with the above poster... my wife isnt that interested in highland heritage as i thought, and she dosent mind me being kilted but she did say "i know your attitude towards people and how mean you can be when someone is being an asshat" lol god i love that woman

[Tartan Hiker]

I suspect that many of the wives (or girlfriends) who don't want their man to wear a kilt are not saying this because they dislike kilts. Indeed, I'll bet that they really do like a man in a kilt. But they are intimidated by the idea of being in public with a kilted man because he will be pointed at and possibly laughed at by the rude, insensitive jerks out there. So it's not that she doesn't like the kilt, it's that she is terrified of being publicly attached to someone who is different than everybody else.

Very wise, Tobus.

[wench381]

I can't understand how any wife wouldn't want her husband to parade around in a kilt. I am proud beyond belief that my husband is so secure in his manhood that he not only wears kilts he makes the other guys look like wimps. It isn't wrong to not only be proud of your heritage everyone should know where they came from. His ancestry is easily traceable and nothing to be ashamed of or hidden. My husband owns 4 kilts each for a different group. Since I am a woman I own a kilt but don't get as much attention when I wear it. To all the ladies out there, take another look at why your significant other wears a kilt, it should impress you.

[ForresterModern]

I agree with Tobus's asessment with a couple amendments. First, my spouse thinks it is fine in the appropriate setting---highland games, kilt night, etc... but does not like me wearing it on otherwise "normal" occasions, even to a formal ball where it is the only formal attire I own. Second, she is bothered by the attention it attracts for several reasons, not the least of which is her feeling that I am trying to attract attention to myself, that some insecurity issue in me is driving me to want to be more seen. Believe me at 6'5" and 270 pounds I have no problem being seen or heard---more the opposite problem, so I do not agree with her there. Third is the "peacock effect" which I think many women who have issues with their men's being kilted may deny but which I believe has a significant effect on the relation. This occurs when the male is more brightly bedecked than his accompanying female, and in this case more unusually dressed, and tends to garner the attention of both friends and strangers in an inordinate degree from what is typical for a couple. Vanity is a powerful thing, hidden or not. In an endeavour at our dress ball in November I wore a black tie outfit with my very dark black/grey tartan Black Isle kilt and charcoal fancy top hose as my only color flare for the whole outfit, in order to not overwhelm my wife's lovely "eggplant" evening gown, thereby keeping enough attention on her to balance the relations. Many people did not even know I was wearing a kilt until I got up and moved around through the crowd. Lastly, my wife and I married a few years before my kilt interests and collection began. According to her she does not think a man looks sexy in a "skirt" (including me), and that had I been a kiltie then or had she known I was going to start wearing kilts (even occasionally) she would probably felt differently about our relationship and not likely have been interested in me then. While that saddens me it is her honest opinion and I value her honesty in saying so. Just something else to balance out.

I honestly do not know if there is any jealousy going on, either because of the attention the kilt attracts to me and away from her, or the attention it attracts from other women, indirectly. All I know is that I enjoy wearing it, not because of some need to stick out or attract attention, especially from any other women (as I am a happily married man, with no more of the usual marrital issues than any other man).

I am hoping my in progress Dutch Friendship Tartan kilt, and a smaller version of the same for our son, also in progress, will sway the tide with her a little bit toward more tolerance of wearing the kilt in her presence, especially since she is full-blooded first generation Dutch American, our son at least half Dutch by heritage, and my paternal bloodlines eventually date back to the lowlands and Flanders. Hopefully this will help bring us all together a bit more on the subject of kilts, as a couple and a family.

jeff

[Burly Brute]

We've started a support group " My Significant Other Hates Kilts". Check it out, this is a place where we can lament the lack of admiration that we receive at home.

http://www.xmarksthescot.com/forum/g...support-group/

[Burly Brute]

I bet this guy rarely gets made fun of for wearing a kilt. (also, is it normal to toss the caber on an incline? Or is it just a bad angle?)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TDf2Xl6zxHg