Fighting objections from the wife

**glenlivet** · 18th February 12, 08:33 AM

Originally Posted by Calico

Unbelievable. Right guys? None of OUR wives would ever say (or think) anything like that, right?

I would not even count myself in the ranks of the obsessed. I don't think many of your wives are far wrong, actually...

**shannon** · 18th February 12, 10:27 AM

Roughly 2 years ago I got the "idea" to wear a kilt to my wife's cousin's wedding that was held in June 2011... My wife shot me down because she didn't want to be embarrassed in front of her family & friends. And then she told me I sounded like a woman accessarizing the kilt with sporran & etc... Although she's told me she finds the idea of kilt wearing men sexy but not her husband except in the bedroom.
Well now the wedding has pass & she has agreed to measure me for the kilt as soon as I come home in first weekend in March! She is now asking me how often I'm planning to wear it OTR & I told atleast twice a week. I'm not dropping over $500 to watch it hang in my closet... and of coarse she now tells me I have to take her out to dinner & not fast food!

FYI: It'll be a small sacrafice for wearing the kilt because after spending a month on the road driving, all I want to do is spend quality home time @ my "vacation home". We live 50 miles from nearest city for entertainment. I do not like to travel in the car more after driving for a month in the truck.

**guardsman** · 19th February 12, 03:08 AM

Originally Posted by ForresterModern

Interestingly, for the first couple years after my wife and I met I did have a little red sportscar (Miata like Zardoz) left over from the mid-life crisis of my first marriage, which had recently ended in divorce, and my (now) wife was then my (post-divorce) little blonde mistress. Little red sportscar (and another replacement convertible) now gone, and little blonde mistress is now little blonde wife and mother of my 4 yr old son. I am pretty sure I am beyond mid-life crisis and moved on to "bucket list" phase of my life, albeit probably a bit prematurely at 52. But then I have always been precocious, according to my mother. Kilts are no MLC for me. I just want to experience the fun things in life while I can still physically do so and afford it. Afterall I'll probably be working full time into at least my late 60's if not my 70's to put my boy through school, so where is my retirement phase of life supposed to fit in?

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nO MLC,Just a case of affordability for most i would say.Kids , house ,cars all money , then at last my desire fulfilled to show my pride at my heritage and my admiration and respect for my parents. First Kilt I was fitted for was to scatter my Mothers ashes in Scotland. My Father ,still living, will be carried to his grave by Kilted son and grandsons and a Pipers lament.Not a mid life crisis more a recognition and pride at what We are and where we are from. Never understood Asians and Muslims wearing their traditional clothing till I got a Kilt. We should remember Fiddler on the roof . Tradition as the song says is important in life. Tradition my friends is something we only respect as we mature.Seeing my eldest son Kilted tells me he is proud of this too. Never realised silent clothes could say so much. Now to try to get all Tartans of the Clan. Isnt life GREAT!

**Kilted Craanen** · 19th February 12, 07:03 AM

Why doesn't she just put up with it? It sounds more like it's her problem rather than yours

**ForresterModern** · 19th February 12, 07:41 AM

Just a brief example of my predicament:

I am working a twelve hour day in the hospital today with no direct patient contact, and seeing the opportunity to spend a comfortable day kilted at work strapped on the Forrester Hunting trad kilt (sewn by Bonnie Heather---thanks Bonnie) along with some new hose from Matt's STM place clearence. Up dressed and on my way out the door but stopped to kiss her awake with a goodbye kiss, which was followed with the usual "why are you wearing a kilt?" question. I said because I wanted to and would be at work, out of her sight until nearly bedtime tonite, and asked her what I was supposed to wear--Her response 'pants, of course". Now mind you I regularly work long shifts on weekends and use those opportunities to don the kilt as I know that I will not be in a public place in her presence with any risk of embarrassing ("I am not with that guy in the kilt") or overshadowing her (peacock effect), and know it will be a more comfortable day than sitting with the bits all scrunched up in a pair of nice jeans or cords. So really this is nothing new to her, one of the solutions and compromises I have reached in our relationship that allows me to wear the kilt without incurring her wrath, but I still get the "why are you wearing a kilt?" question instead of the "you look nice" or even have a good day at work" comments most men get, or that I get when not kilted. Sigh. But then we carry on. This took prevalence over the other good news I whispered in her ear---that I had lost 10 pounds in the last month and was officially under 260# for the first time in nearly 7 years, which recieved no comment at all, probably because of the kilt.

**Connaughton** · 19th February 12, 07:49 AM

After wife gets through her list of objections, and I always let her get through the list, as I am very polite. I calmly let her know that I was not actually asking for permission. She does get veto rights when the following apply. When the event is hers. Work, family or something like that. So her family and co-workers are blissfully unaware that I am proud to wear my kilt. That is fine with me. As time moved forward the objections are less and less. She has learned that I am not going to behave any differently in a kilt than I would in pants.

**Cowher** · 19th February 12, 10:50 AM

I wonder how these women would react if we told them how to dress. It's funny how some look at a kilt with such distain. Pity really. I have come to realize that much of the insecurities I feel at times are because of myself. I ended up implying wrong motives on others because I did not feel confident.
Perhaps remind her of the love you have for her and of the times you gladly supported her and ask that she, like it or not, supported you in your kilt wearing. Communicate. Women are emotional creatures if you tell her how things make you feel and how her rejection makes you FEEL then maybe she will understand a little more.

**sailortats** · 19th February 12, 11:23 AM

or the next few times you and she go out ask her "are you going to wear that? Maybe then she will understand how you feel when she says it in regards to your kilt.
I guess I should say that this comes from someone that is blissfully single, having dodged the bullet twice.

**glenlivet** · 19th February 12, 12:37 PM

Originally Posted by sailortats

I guess I should say that this comes from someone that is blissfully single, having dodged the bullet twice.

This was painfully obvious to any men on here who have been, well...

I was going to say 'married,' but I can just as easily say "who have been with any woman other than their mother or sister"

**okiwen** · 19th February 12, 01:04 PM

Five pages in such a short time. I like the first few posts very much.

If all else fails, I'll give you the number to my wifes phone and she can talk to her and my daughter. My daughteer has made it a requirement for her boy friends (not boyfriends, but all of them).