How to talk her into it?

[pastorsteve]

Simply tell her, that as future Lord and Master of the Household, you are putting your foot down, and wearing the Kilt - and that's that! End of discussion!

Then.........RUN, MY FRIEND! RUN LIKE THE WIND! AS FAR AND AS FAST AS YOU CAN! DON'T EVER LOOK BACK! I suggest either running away to the Circus, maybe to Sea, or perhaps a tiny hand built shack in the wilderness somewhere. She'll never find you then.

[Kerr the Walker]

I suggest either running away to the Circus, maybe to Sea, or perhaps a tiny hand built shack in the wilderness somewhere. She'll never find you then.

You clearly have never met my girlfriend. Circus, sea, wilderness....she's like the post office. I'd never stay hidden for long.

[sathor]

You clearly have never met my girlfriend. Circus, sea, wilderness....she's like the post office. I'd never stay hidden for long.

I had an uncle that was a Carney. He was only a few generations from being a Gordon. But it was one of the things in life my parents forbade me to want to do with my life.

[O'Callaghan]

I have always clearly understood that the groom decides what the best man wears as well as himself. I didn't know there was any other way of doing it. I got married in an ordinary lounge suit, albeit a nice one bought especially for the occasion, and asked the best man and other guys in the wedding party to wear suits in approximately similar colours. Nobody got stressed over it.

This was a long time ago, and I had no interest in wearing a kilt at that point. I am not sure how that might have played out, but she has some Scottish heritage.

I'm sure my wife came with me to shop for a suit, but she would have done anyway, and likewise I went with her to shop for her dress. Possibly the latter is supposed to be bad luck, but that's just a silly superstition. Of course, she chose the bridesmaid's dresses, but I'm sure she consulted them, because they were her closest friends.

That's the way to do things. No 'bridezilla' syndrome. Of course, my wife decided many things that mere males simply can't be bothered with, and there are a lot of such details, but not how the men were going to dress, about which she simply wanted to be informed, probably so our suits didn't clash violently with her chosen colours.

I think for example, in a kilted wedding it would be reasonable to coordinate a tartan sett with the colour of the bridesmaid's dresses, for example. She did pick my tie , a striped one combining the colour of my suit with the colour of the bridesmaid's dresses, which I thought was a nice touch.

[timseh]

And don't forget to duck, because a heavy object will probably take flight headed in the direction of your head!

[ardchoille33]

Look at it this way. You won't have to pay for the jacket, shoes, or pants.

Think of the savings, not the outfit

[Kiltedfirepiper]

when I got married, I told my wife " you can do this (planning of the wedding) however you want.....but I'm wearing a kilt"
luckly.....she just looked at me and said "ok"
we've watched some of those " bridezilla" shows before. and can't believe how some of these women are!
if my soon to be wife acted like that(like those bridezilla's)....well she wouldn't be my soon to be wife anymore!!( and I told my wife that too )

good luck, it sounds like she's comming around

KFP

[Graywolf]

A few comments:

1) The quote: "I haven't proposed yet, but she knows it's coming."
According to a poll taken years ago the average bride had chosen her husband about 6 weeks before the average husband had chosen his bride.

2) If you think she should concede to your wishes, then you should concede to hers first. That way there is no hypocrisy.

3) If you are dead set on the kilt, remember - no apparel is worth a lifetime of love of a good woman. ( I have been married almost 35 years - my parents 65 years - its the voice of some experience speaking)

4) COngrats and I hope it all works out.

[sathor]

According to a poll taken years ago the average bride had chosen her husband about 6 weeks before the average husband had chosen his bride.

Funny thing, I proposed to my wife while she was still in HS and I was in college. I had bought the ring, but I had to wait for it to be sized, since I already knew what size she needed. The weekend before it was scheduled to return from the jeweler, she told me a girl on her bus was betting I was going to pop the question that weekend, which was kinda eerie since I had thought about it, but aside from waiting on the ring, the weekend after was more easy to plan around.

I would have loved a kilted wedding, but I wasn't kilted until recently, right after our 5 year anniversary actually. But I can see my path from HS to today, and I know that its almost a miracle I haven't been kilted for years, I wanted one at the ren fest when I was in HS, I even wanted to learn the pipes, but it wasn't really an option back then, and I worked for some time for a highland athlete in MI for a while. I often talked to some of the Brits when I was in college, my last address was Highland Greens before I moved back north, and I have more than I realized books dealing with the religious practices of the British Isles. Granted, $$ was always the hurdle. What if I would have found SWK or Xmarks far earlier...