My wife scoffs...

[Topsailjon]

My wife pretended not to notice me in my new kilt when she came to collect me from the airport last weekend. By the end of the (kilted) weekend, she was even holding my hand in the supermarket (albeit reluctantly). She'll get used to it. Persevere!

[auld argonian]

I'd like to point out that while 97% of women like a man in a kilt, that particular man may not necessarily be YOU.

Best

AA

[The Barry]

The only thing that my lady doesn't like about me in a kilt is all of the other attention that I get wherever we go.

[Dave G]

Our first experience with a Highland Games Festival was in Virginia this past fall, and when my wife spotted the pros doing the caber, she was hooked on "men in kilts". Her remark after watching this fellow was "now there's a man!"

I order my kilt the next day.

[Nighthawk]

The only thing that my lady doesn't like about me in a kilt is all of the other attention that I get wherever we go.

Same here! I haven't gone to a bar and paid for my own drinks in years... And it's almost always women buying them for me, even when my wife is present!

[Alan H]

I've written this several times before in threads like this but I suppose it can't hurt to write it again.

When I got my first kilt (it was a Stillwater Standard Black Watch), the first time I wore if for the Mrs I also put on a rather pouffy Ren Faire type shirt.

This went over like a lead balloon.

I stopped wearing the pouffy shirt and now only wear it for Faire visits, so that issue has gone away. However, that initial impression stuck for a while. I'd put on a kilt with hose or with boots and a t-shirt and she'd roll her eyes. If we were having a tense evening she might make a "skirt" comment.

Finally one morning she made the skirt comment and I read her the riot act. I don't do it very often, maybe once a year or 18 months at most, so when I do it, it makes an impressions. I told her that she didn't have the right to decide what I was going to wear. I said that if I made little comments about what SHE wore, she'd be furious about it and rightly so. Finally I told her that she was entitled to her opinion, but I was going to wear what I wanted and she could keep her !@#$%$^ opinion to herself and shut up about it.

I was not gentle, kind, nor considerate. I was direct, vulgar, blunt and forceful.

Funny thing is, after that day, I think she's made a "comment" perhaps once or twice at most and now the "kilt issue" is a non-issue.

In all fairness, I am someone who likes to try out new things. Every few years I try a new hobby or something. My Lady is someone who has made very few changes in her life since college. Yes, she has a job and yes she married me, but her hobbies and interests have not changed with the exception of one significant career change and taking up dance for exercise. I've told her many times how proud I am of her for making those changes, but My Lady is a very "steady" person. Change is very hard for her and she only does it on very rare occasions. She sees my tendency to try new things as "flighty" and me as "going through another phase". The fact that I've been doing this kilt thing for over six years now, with no change in sight has proved to her that it's not a short-lived phase and that contributes to her acceptance I think.

That's my story. I am a pretty accomodating guy. I'm pretty reasonable, and I'm a procrastinator. So there are times when I deserve the nagging and shellacking I get from My Lady. HOWEVER, there are limits to all that. I notice that IN FACT when I stood up for my basic right in no uncertain terms, and got right in her face about it ( I was not pretty about it) son of a gun, but she seemed to respect me a bit more for it. Women may like to call a lot of shots around the house and that's fine with me, but if you lie there and let your woman roll over you like a doormat, it's not going to make for a happy marriage.

I will say this. What you wear is your choice. If your woman does not welcome your comments or suggestions about what she wears, then she does not have the right to make comments or suggestions about what YOU wear. If in fact she thinks that she DOES have that right, then there may come a point where you draw a line in the sand.

Understand this.....it is not about "kilts". It is about respect. You cut her the respect she deserves in choosing what she will wear, among many, many other things. She needs to give you the same respect. If she can not do that about "kilts" then I have to ask you if she does it on other things. If the answer is "no", then IMHO its time for you to see marriage counseling. I'm dead serious about that.

[Alan H]

Once upon a time, years and years ago, there was a guy here who wanted to wear a kilt.

He bought a sportkilt. He posted one picture of himself....sportkilt hanging off of him, no socks, dirty worn out running shoes, a baggy hoodie sweatshirt over it all...and the killer, this hangdog expression as if he'd been caught stealing cookies.

He looked like ruddy hell warmed over. It was obvious that she'd not let him buy anything but that sportkilt, and we all know that there are limits to how "just a kilt" can look if you are clueless about how to wear it with anything else, and have none of the usual "kit". Still and all the KILLER thing about that picture was how utterly hammered he looked. He looked ashamed of himself with that kilt on.

He posted several times about how his wife was so adamant about him not wearing a kilt. He posted in a panic one day about how he thought she was going to divorce him over it. And then one day he showed up with a picture of a tartan tie, and how thrilled he was that his wife was going to LET HIM WEAR A TARTAN TIE.

We were all very nice. Very polite. But the whole time I was biting my tongue, because that guy didn't need a kilt.

........................What he needed was a backbone and to grow a set, pardon the term.

Respect your wife. Try to understand her views. Listen to her. After all, you love her and you married her. But do not give away your basic independence and manhood over every single issue to keep her happy. It won't work....not for her, not for you...and if that truly IS the only way to keep her happy, then mate....

.......it's time to find another place to live, because she doesn't love you.

[Nighthawk]

Once upon a time, years and years ago, there was a guy here who wanted to wear a kilt.

He bought a sportkilt. He posted one picture of himself....sportkilt hanging off of him, no socks, dirty worn out running shoes, a baggy hoodie sweatshirt over it all...and the killer, this hangdog expression as if he'd been caught stealing cookies.

He looked like ruddy hell warmed over. It was obvious that she'd not let him buy anything but that sportkilt, and we all know that there are limits to how "just a kilt" can look if you are clueless about how to wear it with anything else, and have none of the usual "kit". Still and all the KILLER thing about that picture was how utterly hammered he looked. He looked ashamed of himself with that kilt on.

He posted several times about how his wife was so adamant about him not wearing a kilt. He posted in a panic one day about how he thought she was going to divorce him over it. And then one day he showed up with a picture of a tartan tie, and how thrilled he was that his wife was going to LET HIM WEAR A TARTAN TIE.

We were all very nice. Very polite. But the whole time I was biting my tongue, because that guy didn't need a kilt.

........................What he needed was a backbone and to grow a set, pardon the term.

Respect your wife. Try to understand her views. Listen to her. After all, you love her and you married her. But do not give away your basic independence and manhood over every single issue to keep her happy. It won't work....not for her, not for you...and if that truly IS the only way to keep her happy, then mate....

.......it's time to find another place to live, because she doesn't love you.

Been there... and then, done that. And am now with a woman who actually does love me. And it's awesome.

[Failed God]

Im lucky my girlfriend likes my new kilt thinks it is sexy.

[Teufel Hunden]

Once upon a time, years and years ago, there was a guy here who wanted to wear a kilt.

He bought a sportkilt. He posted one picture of himself....sportkilt hanging off of him, no socks, dirty worn out running shoes, a baggy hoodie sweatshirt over it all...and the killer, this hangdog expression as if he'd been caught stealing cookies.

He looked like ruddy hell warmed over. It was obvious that she'd not let him buy anything but that sportkilt, and we all know that there are limits to how "just a kilt" can look if you are clueless about how to wear it with anything else, and have none of the usual "kit". Still and all the KILLER thing about that picture was how utterly hammered he looked. He looked ashamed of himself with that kilt on.

He posted several times about how his wife was so adamant about him not wearing a kilt. He posted in a panic one day about how he thought she was going to divorce him over it. And then one day he showed up with a picture of a tartan tie, and how thrilled he was that his wife was going to LET HIM WEAR A TARTAN TIE.

We were all very nice. Very polite. But the whole time I was biting my tongue, because that guy didn't need a kilt.

........................What he needed was a backbone and to grow a set, pardon the term.

Respect your wife. Try to understand her views. Listen to her. After all, you love her and you married her. But do not give away your basic independence and manhood over every single issue to keep her happy. It won't work....not for her, not for you...and if that truly IS the only way to keep her happy, then mate....

.......it's time to find another place to live, because she doesn't love you.

This spurred my curiosity, and I did some searching. I won't ask for verification, but I'm pretty sure I found what you were talking about and good lord I could not imagine being bound to someone so lacking in respect for me, and, well, just dealing with it. I read a lot more about guys who fought an up hill battle to get wife approval and eventually reached a compromise.. I think that's awesome. I wore my first kilt when I was 14, just on a cold, randomly picked day at high school. Even made it in the year book. I've had so many kilted friends, or friends otherwise interested in celtic heritage/culture, the very idea of someone hating the kilt is almost foreign to me... it's made for some interesting reading tonight.

I suppose I've always had that touch of cockiness to me. Then it grew in to a few handfuls when I became a Marine... but I've never been one to settle for someone. I've always just laid it out on the table (HA, no pun intended), and in a round about way said, "this is who I am and what I'm about... you coming or what?" If they didn't like it, well, it was their loss, as I saw it.

But, I have been pretty fortunate, all the girls I've dated over the years just so happened to really like me in a kilt, so I've never been faced with the situation where a woman hated one. I can say, as open as I am about my heritage and fondness for highland wear, the issue would come up WAAAAAAY before marriage ever did. Hell, if I were single now, them simply looking at my facebook page would reveal more than one kilted pic.

Like I said in my first post though, my bonnie lass can't get enough of it. As fortunate as I've been with positive encounters, I'm VERY fortunate to have met her and have her support in literally everything.