A little ticked....

[Nighthawk]

Good luck. Come to Atlanta, and you can eat with us. We'll wear kilts and toast the king over the water if you like and recite Burns poems. After all, a man's a man for a'l that.

That sentiment is echoed from at least one Coloradoan. If the mood strikes you and the lovely Mrs, you're welcome here. It may not be a home cooked meal- it may be a restaurant- but still, you will be welcomed with open arms.

[JelicoCat]

I have one brother. His priorities in life are quite different than mine. I accept him for who he is and he accepts me for who I am. It's difficult at times but we both make the effort to focus in on the fact that we are family and in the end that's whats important. Others in any family should make the same effort. If wearing the kilt is is part of who you are then so be it. Just make sure that you aren't upset at being told what to do. With that said, if it were me, I would wear the kilt.

[ANGELMAN]

Just my .02 Family is most important, but respect is a two way street. I enjoy wearing the kilt most days. My sister would like to borrow them, Dad jokes while trying to figure me out, mom accepts it. At the end of the day we are all still family and would go to the ends of the earth for each other. That said I feel dress is a personal choice and as a grown man I will were what I want when I want if in a nuetral place. If I was going to someone's home I would respect their request or just stay home. If in public wear the kilt.......... Good Luck!

[Dean]

I think you did good. I would have said the same thing.

They are family and should accept you the way you are. It would be the same if you were gay and were told to leave your partner at home and bring a girl just to please the relatives.

Yes, it is a garment, but it is STILL YOUR CHOICE. They should respect that.

[Mipi]

Why don't you make a compromise? Let say, tartan pants?

[Smayniac]

I have read this entire thread with some interest. I too have stirred up some controversy over the upcoming holiday with my family, not over dress, but over Scooby's attendance on grandparents. My wife and I have not lived together for some time, but have still spent holidays together so we could both enjoy our son's company.

My cousins are hosting dinner this year and many of Scooby's cousins(second I guess really) will be attending. I have tried very hard in the years since my aunt's death to keep my son in touch with those other members of his generation and informed his mother and grandmama that he would be spending the holiday with my family this year. Grandmama is not pleased and mama is in the middle, which I feel bad about, but I've bent over backwards to make other people's holiday plans work, this one holiday is mine.

Both families have seen me kilted on occasion, I haven't decided whether I will be on Thanksgiving or not. No one will bat an eye either way, we're all a bit "out of the ordinary."

CC, I hope this works out for you; I would have trouble choosing not to be with some family for any holiday, but absent a current wife, my son's interests override for me.

Happy Holidays to All,

Bob

[Tetley]

.. my son's interests override for me.

A responsible and adult decision, but this is a decision that you have made, not one that someone has made for you and that is the point of this thread.

[celtic cowboy]

Well all just got back from dinner. Mom was mad the second she saw me, and said " I thought I told you to wear pants today", to which I said "Well that just would not be me, would it?". Upon arrival at the resturant my mom said somthing to my brother, and he gave me a dirty look. However I recived many a positive comment form others dinning there, including form one of my brother's co-workers. Here are some pics.
First of me.

The res tof the Family.

Ian would not look at the camera, oh well. Hope you all had a great day!

[JRB]

...Mom said " I thought I told you to..."

As soon as I read your last post the above phrase jumped out at me. I think I was around 12 years old the last time my mother said that line to me. It is obvious that you are just a bit older than that. Clearly your mother has some issues to deal with. You, on the other hand, look great. Your family looks great. I applaud your courage and tenacity. In the long run it sounds like you had a good day over all.

[staticsan]

I have to say, you took a decision that I'm not sure I would have taken. But then you did bring up with your mum the issue I would have focussed on: why she was making promises to other people for you.

I have issues with my family about being kilted, which hurts. My immediate family, no less. Relatives further away have no problem, and what friends have seen my kilted are curious, but also do not pass judgement.