Pay back time?

[Joe Gondek]

I say he shouldn't wear it if he's only doing it to get the woman's goat. If he would have worn it normally, then go ahead! I would have ceased caring about her opinions (regarding dress) the day she stopped caring about mine.

well said

[CDNSushi]

For me personally, the whole revenge thing is kinda icky... As a Christian I've heard enough sermons about that I suppose, to know that we're supposed to leave that to God and just worry about forgiving others their faults...

HOWEVER, having said that -- the little devil on my other shoulder is telling me a great alternative solution... Rather than risk making a big scene or anything, upsetting people overtly and blatantly, especially "mom," I would just bail at the last minute. "OFF" goes the cellphone, and on the way to the wedding, I'd "stop for a quick pint" and somehow manage to lose track of time till... ohhh.. I dunno... the next day.

Oooops! Sorry we couldn't make it to the wedding -- something important came up.

[thescot]

For me personally, the whole revenge thing is kinda icky... As a Christian I've heard enough sermons about that I suppose, to know that we're supposed to leave that to God and just worry about forgiving others their faults...

HOWEVER, having said that -- the little devil on my other shoulder is telling me a great alternative solution... Rather than risk making a big scene or anything, upsetting people overtly and blatantly, especially "mom," I would just bail at the last minute. "OFF" goes the cellphone, and on the way to the wedding, I'd "stop for a quick pint" and somehow manage to lose track of time till... ohhh.. I dunno... the next day.

Oooops! Sorry we couldn't make it to the wedding -- something important came up.

Having said what I said above . . . this is an evil woman whom I really like! I love the way she thinks, and i agree with everything she said.

If I were 30 years younger and we were both single, I'd fall in love. This gal has a great way of thinking.

[thescot]

Oh, my Lord, is it ever payback time. If you are the woman you seem to be, I would think that this is a no brainer. Like it says above, "Hell yeah!" We wouldn't want to make problems in the family, but since it's your mother and you seem OK with, it, well . . . .

Dang skippy! Wear the kilt to her wedding. Tell her you wanted her to remember the occasion.

[Tommy Hunt]

Well, unbeknownst to us, my mother had RETURNED hubby's kilt the day before and EXCHANGED it for a tuxedo and pants.

And your husband is still speaking to her?

[Nighthawk]

And your husband is still speaking to her?

I wouldn't be...

[Wompet]

The family peace-keeper in me goes with Glen, Jamie, Barb and Anne.
The antagonist in me loves SteveB's suggestion.
The compromising me (the one that usually wins out) says

• kilt to the rehearsal dinner

• formal kilt to the wedding if your husband is not in the wedding party and if that is what he would wear normally

• kilt to the reception if that is what he would wear normally

• * and you should play that song on the pipes, because the gifts with the most meaning are the ones you make/perform yourself. You are giving of yourself to your mother on her wedding day.

(I never said that I was good at compromise.)

[RamsayClanCommish]

I would tell the future groom all about it and suggest HE wear a kilt. Since apparently he had no problems with the great Highland heritage. If he has a trace of the blood in him, he will see the righteous retribution and wear a kilt you help him rent.

Then tell mother you exchanged his tux for a kilt as you didnt want her to look back and regret something. Then change her first dance music to "Flower of Scotland".

[Kilted_John]

DOO EET! If someone did that to me, I would return the "favor". No questions asked. And, definitely get the groom kilted.

-J

[Freedomlover]

So my hubby is finally getting a tank (yay!)

My question is this: Should he wear it to my mom's wedding?


Here's the juicy background info:
My hubby had rented a nice kilt outfit for OUR wedding. We got married in Billings, MT so we stayed at my parents' house (my parents were still married then...) We were to be married the next day.

Well, unbeknownst to us, my mother had RETURNED hubby's kilt the day before and EXCHANGED it for a tuxedo and pants. So an hour before we were supposed to get married (on New Year's Eve Day so a lot of places including the rental places were closed) we discovered this and we had to get all our wedding pictures with my new hubby in pants.

When confronted my mother said she, "Didn't think kilts were appropriate wedding attire and didn't want me to to look back on my wedding day with regret."

How dare she? That is outrageous. It was YOUR day, not hers!

So now she's getting remarried in January....should he do some pay back?

If your hubby shows up in a kilt when you both know she doesn't like it, that is no different than what she did. Just as your day was yours, her day is hers. She smote you upon the right cheek without a cause, so the best course of action would be to give her the other one as well. Or if you want to be a little less subtle just don't attend.