Proper attire for a funeral

[Kilted Rogue]

My best friend is about to loose her father due to cancer. So when i say i am planning to go to a funeral soon, its not light hearted. As most of my dress clothes have given way to kilt wearing, I have an outfit in mind for the day but i wanted to make sure its appropriate

Please excuse the grin, its was a good day when i snapped the shot
As we will be outside i most likely will add a Balmoral

[Noel Christian Riddell]

'Wear your best and look respectful'

Think I heard someone say that once... I think your choice of attire is perfectly suited to the occasion. Though I'd add a black neck tie to the ensemble.

So sorry to hear about your friend's dad. I live in Cancerville, USA. Evil, evil disease.

[Santa Kona]

'Wear your best and look respectful'

Think I heard someone say that once... I think your choice of attire is perfectly suited to the occasion. Though I'd add a black neck tie to the ensemble.

So sorry to hear about your friend's dad. I live in Cancerville, USA. Evil, evil disease.

Add a tie it is just showing your respect for the family.

[Deil the Yin]

'Wear your best and look respectful'

Think I heard someone say that once... I think your choice of attire is perfectly suited to the occasion. Though I'd add a black neck tie to the ensemble.

So sorry to hear about your friend's dad. I live in Cancerville, USA. Evil, evil disease.

I'd second this sentiment, and only add that a black armband is usually a definitive touch regarding appropriate sentiments.

[Redshank]

not wishing to spoil the party so to speak, but consider this, a funeral is not about you, it's a show of respect for the dearly departed and the family and friends they left behind.
In Scotland it's not the norm to wear the kilt to a funeral, unless the deceased themselves either wore a kilt, loved the tartan or was highly patriotic.
I would personally consider every aspect, did your friends father admire your wearing of the kilt, if so wear it for that reason, if on the other hand he never saw you wearing the kilt, then perhaps on this one occassion wear clothing that will fit in with the rest of the mourners.
or put simply, do you really want to stand out amongst the crowd and steal the centre of attention at this sad occassion.
Perhaps ask the approval of your friend ?

Chris

[Jock Scot]

not wishing to spoil the party so to speak, but consider this, a funeral is not about you, it's a show of respect for the dearly departed and the family and friends they left behind.
In Scotland it's not the norm to wear the kilt to a funeral, unless the deceased themselves either wore a kilt, loved the tartan or was highly patriotic.
I would personally consider every aspect, did your friends father admire your wearing of the kilt, if so wear it for that reason, if on the other hand he never saw you wearing the kilt, then perhaps on this one occassion wear clothing that will fit in with the rest of the mourners.
or put simply, do you really want to stand out amongst the crowd and steal the centre of attention at this sad occassion.
Perhaps ask the approval of your friend ?

Chris

Wise words there Chris. However, once you have considered the above advice and then decide that the kilt is appropriate, then something along the lines of Glen's attire in his picture here would be just right. If I might respectfully say that a black shirt is not as effective as a white shirt and black(not a bow) tie. For what it is worth your sporran is really not appropriate for the occasion--- too formal. Once again, something like the one Glen is wearing, maybe with black leather tassels if you like them, would suit the sad occasion rather better.

[Phil]

Yes, at a funeral respect for the deceased is paramount. White shirt and black tie are the thing.

[Paul]

not wishing to spoil the party so to speak, but consider this, a funeral is not about you, it's a show of respect for the dearly departed and the family and friends they left behind.
In Scotland it's not the norm to wear the kilt to a funeral, unless the deceased themselves either wore a kilt, loved the tartan or was highly patriotic.
I would personally consider every aspect, did your friends father admire your wearing of the kilt, if so wear it for that reason, if on the other hand he never saw you wearing the kilt, then perhaps on this one occassion wear clothing that will fit in with the rest of the mourners.
or put simply, do you really want to stand out amongst the crowd and steal the centre of attention at this sad occassion.
Perhaps ask the approval of your friend ?

Chris

Chris. That's so true, but I wish this wasn't the case. Most people do see a kilt as a way of standing out and more often than not, only for striking formal attire. In our neck of the woods people probably will never overcome this, which is disappointing. I'd love for people to wear whatever they like to my funeral as this would respect my acknowledgement of peoples' personal identity, which I honor.
Have you ever worn a kilt to a lowland funeral?
To be honest, for every funeral I've attended the deceased would have loved to know that someone was kilted at their sending off, so I don't know why people often frown upon this, especially when a black kilt, black hose, black jacket, white shirt and black tie could easily be worn.

[Redshank]

Chris. That's so true, but I wish this wasn't the case. Most people do see a kilt as a way of standing out and more often than not, only for striking formal attire. In our neck of the woods people probably will never overcome this, which is disappointing. I'd love for people to wear whatever they like to my funeral as this would respect my acknowledgement of peoples' personal identity, which I honor.
Have you ever worn a kilt to a lowland funeral?
To be honest, for every funeral I've attended the deceased would have loved to know that someone was kilted at their sending off, so I don't know why people often frown upon this, especially when a black kilt, black hose, black jacket, white shirt and black tie could easily be worn.

I have attended 4 funerals in the last couple of years here in the highlands, wore a dark suit at 2 of them, and a kilt at the other 2, but then 1 was the funeral of my best frend, a kilt maker, so it was inevitable that I wore a kilt made by him, the second was a mother of a patriot friend of mine, he asked that I wear my clan tartan at his mothers funeral.
I have never been to a lowland funeral, I dont know that many lowlanders well.
I agree, the kilt should be worn more often, after all it's the national dress, wearing it is a mark of respect for our nation, so if it's worn with respect then I see no reason why it shouldn't be worn in Scotland to a funeral.
I will be wearing one at mine that's for sure

[Mr. MacDougall]

Outfit looks fine to me, as well.

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