Request to wear kilt at funeral - but I don't want to!

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And I quote Chas, too: "Funerals are not for the dead - they are for those of us that are left behind"

Allow me to rant: there are many of us--that would be Episcopalians of an Anglo-Catholic stripe, and Roman Catholics, who take umbrage with this. A "funeral"--if it is a Requiem, is for THE SOUL OF THE DEPARTED. Prayers are not offered for the living. While the living may take comfort knowing that we are praying for the soul of a loved-one, the reason we should be there should not be forgotten. So, I disagree with all of the statements and platitudes--as if written in stone--that funerals are for the living.

End of rant.

PS perhaps this "Funerals are not for the dead " could be seen as an attack, however mild and unintended, on one's religion, and might be contrary to the Forum rules and regs. Just saying.

Okay. Yes, the funeral prayers are for the dead, but the service is for the living. I am Roman Catholic, and can still say that with a clear conscience.