My wife loves that I wear kilts. Sure, she likes to see me wear pants every now and then (something about my "perfect posterior") and she does thanks to the fact that I do wear a suit to work once or twice a week, mostly because it was made by one of my dearest friends, a professional tailor,and he always asks about it. He even made me a second pair of trousers for my birthday last year.

Anyways, as I said, Miranda loves me wearing the kilt. However, she absolutely abhors the comments wearing one produces, particularly if they come in a flirtatious manner. Now me, I'm quite oblivious to such flirtations because I'm most decidedly an unflirtatious person. I tend to see such comments as complimentary encouragement. My wife, however, being a flirtatious person herself, doesn't and it has, in the past, caused some consternation between us. She can't understand why I can't see such comments (even apparently benign ones like, "Is that really that comfortable?") would upset her, and I can't understand why she would choose to get so upset over a passing comment that I've obviously ignored. She finds it incredibly disrespectful of people to "ask the question" and I always tell her that I agree with her. However, I'm just not the type of person to get upset at passing moronic comments from ignorant people. She is.

We have, however, talked at length about it, and we've come to a point of tolerance and respect for each other's feelings on the subject. If someone makes a comment, I accept it for what it means to me and I also acknowledge that it may be upsetting to Miranda. For her part, she's learning not to get so upset because someone chooses to pay me a compliment and that I'm oblivious to what may be another's flirtatious behavior.

As some pointed out earlier, it's all about communication and, through that communication, mutual respect and tolerance. I've never been the most communicative person (I unfortunately take after my tight lipped father in that regard) but I can honestly say that one thing has really helped foster communication between my wife and I: The Kilt.