No Pockets - What do I do with my hands?

[biblemonkey]

No offense to your parents, but that is quite possibly one of the stupidest things I've ever heard. Making judgments about someone's character by what they are doing with their hands? Really? And they thought this tidbit of wisdom was worth passing on to others?

There could be a million reasons someone puts their hands in their pockets or fidgets. Shoulder or elbow pain could make it uncomfortable to let one's arms hang straight or clasp them behind the back. Or their hands may just be cold. Heck, someone may have just had too much coffee and feels fidgety, or they're stressed out from work and being fidgety helps them compensate. Trying to judge someone's morals or self-esteem like that is not only inaccurate, it's just plain wrong.

Sorry for the rant, but it really irks me that some people feel the need to walk around judging others in the first place, but especially over nonsensical, meaningless stuff like this. I think a person has more self-esteem if they do what they want with their hands than someone who is always trying to pose properly to make sure others think he has strength.

Next time PM this kind of thing. It was an opinion that was not the poster's own but rather an anectodal peice of information and saying "no offense" does not remove the coarseness of your response.

Thanks,
Hugh

[Tobus]

Next time PM this kind of thing. It was an opinion that was not the poster's own but rather an anectodal peice of information and saying "no offense" does not remove the coarseness of your response.

Thanks,
Hugh

My response was no less coarse than the implied insult towards people who put their hands in their pockets. If it was worth mentioning in the open forum in the first place, then it was worth responding to likewise.

I am certainly not trying to incite a heated discussion or derail the thread, but I imagine that I'm not the only one who felt slighted by the idea that if I put my hands in my pockets, it means I have low self-esteem or I'm hiding something. That's just plain ridiculous, and there's no reason that a public comment like that should have to be replied to privately. We're all big boys and girls, and I trust we're capable of discussing the matter like adults.

That said, I apologize if my response was overly coarse. But perhaps if posts that could be deemed as derogatory towards fellow members were not made in the first place, they would need no response. So let's just move on, shall we?