I have gone thru this.
PM blu and get the link to a Questionnaire for your woman to answer. this may give you a better understanding of how any why she feels the way she does.blue posted those questions, and helped me understand how my wife feels.now she's kool with it.
also don't forget you are dealing with a woman, strange things to deal with at the best of times.

here I found the link for you
http://www.xmarksthescot.com/forum/v...+questionnaire