What to wear to a friend's wedding?

[Wareyin]

A caution: when ye speak o' yer tartan, none are either drab nor bright; yer tartan's yer tartan, and tha's all there is to 't.

I meant no offense. My apologies.

[Father Bill]

No offence taken, believe me!

My point is that many folks speak of tartans in terms of whether they "like" the colours. Your tartan is your name-tag, so who gives a flyin' *bleep* whether people like it or not. It's who you are or where you come from or which regiment you served, so colour is as immaterial to tartan liking as spelling is to name writing.

Just a wee bit o' teachin' here!

[Wareyin]

"Watson is a Sept of Buchanan, possibly, but I think the Buchanan would be overly bright to wear to a wedding."

Never! :-) It's all I ever wear. But Watson has it's own family tartan which is very nice as well. You should check that out.

Aye
CTBuchanan

I agree that the Watson tartan is quite nice, but it is right now quite out of my budget range.

[unixken]

I too, will be attending a wedding, in September. I concur that you may wish to ask the brides and grooms if they'd like you to wear the kilt. Particularly if you don't know the bride. It's bad form to outshine her, and you don't want to be a cause of scorn from her mother or family, etc.

In my particular instance, the bride asked me "which kilt are you wearing?" (She owns a sheep farm and holds numerous events open to the public throughout the year, and I always wear a kilt when I help out, so she knows what to expect of me, kilted.) Her wedding will be held in the new barn on her sheep farm. No formalwear will be expected to march through the potentially muddy environs of a sheep farm. ;)

I'll be wearing my new Matt Newsome box-pleat "Buchanan Old Sett", in ancient colors, with either a simple tattersall shirt with tie, with or without charcoal argyl jacket if it's warm... or a sweater/jumper, if it's chilly. I have a brown full-mask muskrat sporran that works for all occasions, that I'll wear, as well.

[ctbuchanan]

Reading Ken's post I should mention also now that many of our friends have seen me kilted at other weddings they now ask me in advance "You'll wear your kilt won't you?"

[Wareyin]

I too, will be attending a wedding, in September. I concur that you may wish to ask the brides and grooms if they'd like you to wear the kilt. Particularly if you don't know the bride. It's bad form to outshine her, and you don't want to be a cause of scorn from her mother or family, etc.

In my particular instance, the bride asked me "which kilt are you wearing?" (She owns a sheep farm and holds numerous events open to the public throughout the year, and I always wear a kilt when I help out, so she knows what to expect of me, kilted.) Her wedding will be held in the new barn on her sheep farm. No formalwear will be expected to march through the potentially muddy environs of a sheep farm. ;)

I'll be wearing my new Matt Newsome box-pleat "Buchanan Old Sett", in ancient colors, with either a simple tattersall shirt with tie, with or without charcoal argyl jacket if it's warm... or a sweater/jumper, if it's chilly. I have a brown full-mask muskrat sporran that works for all occasions, that I'll wear, as well.

I am of the opinion that it won't be possible to outshine the bride if it's formal. Who could think that a kilt was more spectacular than a bridal dress?

[unixken]

"Watson is a Sept of Buchanan, possibly, but I think the Buchanan would be overly bright to wear to a wedding."

Never! :-) It's all I ever wear. But Watson has it's own family tartan which is very nice as well. You should check that out.

Aye
CTBuchanan

For those with an aversion to the Buchanan (or any other tartan) in all of it's "modern colors" glory, I submit that my Buchanan in Dalgliesh's Reproduction palette subdues the "glare" quite a bit, as do my Buchanan Hunting in Ancient, and my new Buchanan Old Sett, also in Ancient. Consider a clan's alternate tartans (such as hunting), and secondary color palettes (weathered, ancient, etc.), as excellent alternatives to the often bright "modern."

[Liam]

I am of the opinion that it won't be possible to outshine the bride if it's formal. Who could think that a kilt was more spectacular than a bridal dress?

I totally agree with you on this one. I have worn my kilt to numerous weddings and have never thought the need to ask permission, although most of my friends and relatives are aware that I wear it most of the time.

[Thekiltedmohawk]

I totally agree with you on this one. I have worn my kilt to numerous weddings and have never thought the need to ask permission, although most of my friends and relatives are aware that I wear it most of the time.

You are lucky about that. My future sister in the law knew I'm a full-time kilt wearer. Yet, I'm banned from wearing my kilt to my brother's wedding. Guess she have no Scottish blood in her.

[Wareyin]

I have been told to wear a kilt by both wedding parties, now. Unfortunately, as I tried to order a jacket, I discovered that we just started a week long Islamic holiday. They return on the 22nd, leaving. 3 weeks to complete my jacket and ship it overseas to me. I am quite concerned that the jacket will not arrive in time.

I may rent a jacket, or perhaps find a vest/waistcoat only from somewhere.